My husband and i have been trying to adopt for close to a year. We jumped through hoops through the welfare system/county where we reside. Attended the classes,done the biogroaphy of both of our lives, done all the paperwork and anything that was asked. Denied for such reasons: Step-son not warranting of sharing his room could cause potential abuse. Reminder my step-son stays with us 2 months out of the year. And my husband has guns which was passed on from generation which is kept in a safe away from children and myself. They wanted us to have bullets separate from guns which we did. They never followed through. It was as if they did not want us to adopt, only to foster. Now we have to adopt through a private agency which cost tons of cash$. $We do not have. Any ideas :confused:

Visit http://www.adoption.com and follow the links that apply to you. It is possible that a foster family is in more demand over an adoptive one since foster families are hard to find.

Hello my name is Alice and i live in illinois. i know things can be difficult but i am looking for a family to adopt my baby. I am due in july and i already have 3 children and there are marriage problems with my husband and i. It is a long story, i had met a guy online and he came here, there is a possibility he is the father of the child. From what i know he wouldn't want me to give the baby up for adoption but he is in no means of taking care of a child. He has moved from state to state over the years and has no job and really no place to live. My husband if it could possibly be his doesn't want to have another child and doesn't want to see the baby or be at the hospital when the child is born because he basically wants nothing to do with the child. I am so scared i have no one to turn to because i don't want to be with this other guy i honestly don't want to give up the baby but for my marriage to go anywhere with my husband its what i have to do. I am way to scared to do this alone with the birth of the child being in labor with no one to turn to. So if you haven't found anyones baby yet to adopt you can contact me by email and i can get to know you and see where it could possibly go.

Sincerly,
Alice aka hopefullylostinillinois :(

My husband and i have been trying to adopt for close to a year. We jumped through hoops through the welfare system/county where we reside. Attended the classes,done the biogroaphy of both of our lives, done all the paperwork and anything that was asked. Denied for such reasons: Step-son not warranting of sharing his room could cause potential abuse. Reminder my step-son stays with us 2 months out of the year. And my husband has guns which was passed on from generation which is kept in a safe away from children and myself. They wanted us to have bullets separate from guns which we did. They never followed through. It was as if they did not want us to adopt, only to foster. Now we have to adopt through a private agency which cost tons of cash$. $We do not have. Any ideas :confused:

Dear browneyednurse,
My husband and I have been in your shoes we just got denied on Valentines day with no explanation as to why!! Every one we know can not believe it.Let alone us we went through the whole process just as you did! with all the children in the system you would think they would try harder to place them!! We also had conections with our church which didnt help either! I dont know what you have to do to adopt through the state! I would like to talk to you more about this. We are confused also!

My husband and I have been through all the fertillity treatments in which I almost died they cut my main artory during laporoscopy surgery.
We just went through the whole process of trying to adopt through the state in which we were denied and given no answers as to why.we were told they are unable to tell us why we just do not understand and nor does any one who knows us as a couple/family. My husband has two children by his ex-wife. We get them every other weekend and five weeks of the summer.
Our life is just not complete .
Our home is so empty.We have so much love and guidance to share with a child or children!! I work as a Daycare teacher and my husband works for Pepsi we are both hard workers.
We have so much to offer a child!! My step-children were so excited to have other children at our home to call their brother or sister. They would love and except a child into our home with open arms.
That is why it is so hard for us to except!! We are good honest people and we have no answers as to why we were denied adoption through the state with all the children in need of homes!! If you have any answers please contact us !!

Hello my name is Alice and i live in illinois. i know things can be difficult but i am looking for a family to adopt my baby. I am due in july and i already have 3 children and there are marriage problems with my husband and i. It is a long story, i had met a guy online and he came here, there is a possibility he is the father of the child. From what i know he wouldn't want me to give the baby up for adoption but he is in no means of taking care of a child. He has moved from state to state over the years and has no job and really no place to live. My husband if it could possibly be his doesn't want to have another child and doesn't want to see the baby or be at the hospital when the child is born because he basically wants nothing to do with the child. I am so scared i have no one to turn to because i don't want to be with this other guy i honestly don't want to give up the baby but for my marriage to go anywhere with my husband its what i have to do. I am way to scared to do this alone with the birth of the child being in labor with no one to turn to. So if you haven't found anyones baby yet to adopt you can contact me by email and i can get to know you and see where it could possibly go.

Sincerly,
Alice aka hopefullylostinillinois :(

HAVE YOU FOUND ANYBODY TO TAKE YOUR BABY YET?
DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR HAVING?
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Hello,
I recently read your post, sorry to hear about the problems you're having. Thinking of adoption for your child has to be very difficult, but adoption is an
act of love. We have four children and are unable to have anymore, we have been searching for a child to adopt. We dream of completing our family through adoption, it is just something that lies close to our hearts, it is discouraging when you get let down, but we feel somewhere out there God knows where our other child is, and he will bring he/she to us when he feels it is right. I hope that your problems get better, and that if you are sure the choice for you and your child is through adoption,that you might consider us, we have an adoption website, which I have listed with my profile.
Please feel free to visit it and contact us if you would like to talk God bless you in your decision may God be with you.

Thanks,

motherto4seeking1more