I am an executive for a major bank. I have been in this position for less than one year, but acquired it when my previous employer was bought out. I have 4 years of a spotless record, not to mention the previous 18 years at other companies without a blemish. I was written up for not following through on an assignment during the very highly stressful merger. It seemed bogus at the time, since I had only worked for the company for 4 months. It involved not inspecting a tellers assignment to put away supplies pre merger. I now find myself with a written warning after 4 months past this merger. I received no training for my new position, yet have expected to manage my team as well as my peers who have been with the company for many years. It has been a horrible experience on top of dealing with the symptons of menopause. My peers are all younger and I have been made to feel like a total loser. I am questioning their motive for this, since motivating and supporting me to improve, is clearly not their objective. I was even asked if I would consider taking another position in the company. I have suspected that a compilation of issues may have brought this about. I am a 'yankee" living and working in a southern town (their word, not mine), I was recommended for this position by a market president in another region (I relocated to this area ) and my supervisor had pressure to hire me (and is now trying to let me go since the merger is complete), my previous company put pressure on the new firm to hire any displaced personnel (which I would have been) or if my memory lapses, hot flashes and slower than a 26 year old response has put my career and life in jeopardy. My mind is racing and I fear losing my job....it's only a matter of time before the dreaded,three stikes you are out, comes my way. By the way, I live in the panhandle of Florida and work for a North Carolina bank. Help!

The company is not required to treat you differently because of menopause. There was nothing illegal about writing you up for failing to follow through on your team's work. Nor is it illegal to write you up for the first time four months into a new position.

Frankly, I don't see what meopause has to do with any of this although I do understand that it's not helping with the job situation you're dealing with. I suggest you see your doctor to explore medical options to deal with the symptoms you are experiencing.

It sounds to me like the merger resulted in your being in over your head in your current role and yes, your peers and subordinates may be resistant to taking direction from you but that almost certainly has to do with the forced changes that naturally occur after a merger/acquisition takes place and perhaps with your own management style as well. I suggest you explore the possibility they offered to you of considering another position within the company. You may find they have an opportunity for which you are better suited.

I can seriously relate as I am one of those "damn yankee's" as well. Let me say I believe it's not you. Word spreads fast in the smaller regions of the south. They protect thier own and those are not my words but the words I've heard repeated to me from distant relatives that live in this region. Thus my problem of be on the black-list. But there are companies that do not do that, I'm still searching for them tho.