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deana71
10-20-2005, 07:27 PM
I have been divoced for 8 years. In the beginning my ex and I remained "friends" for the sake of our daughter. We have both remarried and I seem to have more difficulty with him due to his new spouse. I have maintained being the adult in this situation, but I feel as if she is using my child to get at me. I do not know her personally, and I have no desire to return to my ex. Last year we had the child support revisited and he received a deduction because he has another child. We have also had another child, but it did not seem to matter. On top of the reduced child support, he owes an additional $25 a month for her band instrument and her dental bills. He has not paid in 8 months. When asked, he states he does not have any money, and that our daughter needs to understand that he has moved on with his life and has a new family. I cannot say this to my daughter. He is still her father, and I want her to make up her own mind without my influence. I have recently been laid off from my job and need the money. My lawyer says that I can file an enforcement order for $2500 and have him thrown in jail for contempt. He does not care. He said to do it, but I do not want to tramatize my daughter. I am trying to be patient and nice, but my patience is wearing thin and I do not know what to do. He will not answer the phone or let me talk to my daughter, so i bought her a cell phone. Now he has taken the cell phone and will not let her call me for any reason. My lawyer says that there is nothing I can do. When did Texas become so pro-father and loose sight that it is all about the children. He seems to have more rights than me. I just don't know what to do or how to cope.

elklaw
10-21-2005, 10:22 PM
Maybe the child should hide the cell phone. This is a difficult situation. The courts can be involved, but this is more a difference in parenting styles and somethign for the parents to resolve. Mediation- maybe that might help.

deana71
10-22-2005, 08:33 AM
Thank you for your reply. I just do not know how to talk to them. I do not want to be ugly. That will only make matters worse, but I am tried of being a doormat. My daughter came home and said that she never wants to do go over there again. I told her she needs to talk to her father. I am afraid that she is starting to manipulate the situation. I only want what is best for her. As for meditation, I also have a two year old, and I can't even have alone time to take a shower.

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