My son is almost 11 months old, last time i got to see him was at the DNA testing in March. His mother and I were arguing about how I was going to get to see him, when where and time. all were unreasonable to me. shortly after she disappeared, I pay all of my child support payments on time. the child support department called me recently to ask me if my work offered reasonable health insurance, at that time they told me all that I can do to find her is write a letter to her and give it to them to send to her. the state thinks that she is living in San Luis Obispo County with her grandparents when she is not, she would never live with them because her grandfather molested her when she was a child. is there anything that I can do to find her and get visitation with my son other then a lawyer, I cant afford a lawyer.

she was telling me that I could see my son, every other sunday around 2PM for a half hour. and she would not set a specific time.

thank you for your help

Shane

It sounds as if there is a child support order in place. Is there an order for visitation? There should be, if there isn't you need to get one. Visitation for infants is different than for older children, there usually isn't any overnight stay's, but you should get more than 1/2 hr once every other week. If there is an order in place, and she is denying visitation, she is in contempt of court. You have to contact the court (not sure if you have to have an attorney) to hold in her contempt and they will issue a warrant. You can hire a PI to find her, or if she is pulled over she could get arrested with the warrant, but I don't know what other choices you have to find her.

The child support office should have a current address for her, otherwise she wouldn't be getting her child support checks. If she wants that money, she'll make sure they know how to find her. If they're willing to help you contact her, I'd try it. She may not be living in San Luis Obispo but she's most likely picking up her mail there if that's the address they have.

p.s. You said that all offers of visitation were "unreasonable" to you. It looks like you're getting nothing now, so if I were you I'd take any offer of visitation - unreasonable or not - and then go from there, hopefully changing it as time goes on to better suit you.

I'm sorry but it does not matter if the child is an infant for overnight stays. My daughter started overnight stays before her first birthday with her dad.

First, get a visitation order, so that when you find her, you ahve an order in hand to enforce and can call the police to enforce it. You also need to ask the court to order her to keep you apprised of the child's address and whereabouts.
This is a difficult situation, so anythign short of pursuing custody is going to leave you in a very disadvanaged position.