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jazzeyb
10-04-2005, 08:43 AM
I have an odd situation. I have an immediate supervisor who happens to also be a Babptist preacher. In my opinion he has some pretty off the wall view-points. He questions my Christianity, and all throughout the day talks about Jesus and Judgement day. I agree with some things but disagree with many things. These are not conversations I start with. We work in the technology field, by the way.
Here is where the complexity grows. This person, does NOT like me.. AT ALL !!
HE has told many people that I bring the team down and he wishes I was not employed here. It goes beyond that though, and gets more complex. My best friend works with me, who happens to be this guy's brother in law. SO he goes to my best friend's parents and tells them of what I do at work, how I act, how I am "UnChristian", and tells them about current disclipanary processes or actions being made against me, for things he has brought up out off his own facist and personal opinion. So not only do I feel like he is shoving HIS religion down my throat, and using it to discredit me, I amost feel like I have no confidentiality at work,(which is a very large business) with him leaving and telling my friend's relatives how bad I am, or how he wishes I wasn't working here. You can imagine how "pins and needles" I am around him anyway, but it seems as if he waits for anything I do negative no matter how small it may be, to blow it up into a major issue and use it to discredit me, or what I have come to terms as "professional and legal slander" against me. The tech market is very slim where we live so it's not like I can just slap my 2-weeks down and leave. I just feel like somewhere without retalitaion risk against me there is some legal term I can throw out to maybe just keep him off of my case. Prime example, I had a private phone conversation in my office, which two other people in my oggice overheard because they were in here. I did not yell, but did use the " f " word a few times in this 30 second conversation. This of course was blown out of what it really was. and even though the " f " word is used freely around the workplace by others, I have been suspended for a day w/out pay and lost 8 PDO's because of it, becuase this guy hates me so bad and made it that much of a deal, even though we had already talked about it and he said all was fine. Aghhh what can I do?? This is so unfair... just to sit back and be hunted.

Beth3
10-04-2005, 09:03 AM
I always find it ironic when someone who proclaims themself to be the ultimate Christian (or Buddist or Jewish or Muslim or whatever) acts in an intolerant and uncharitable manner so completely contrary to the tennants of their faith.

Anyway, have you complained to HR or more senior management about your supervisor trying to shove his religion down your throat and discussing confidential matters about you with personal acquaintances? Since you work for a large company, I would expect HR to be quite knowledgeable about legal exposure on a potential religion discrimination complaint as well as immediately recognize how grossly inappropriate your supervisor's behavior is in all aspects.

Don't engage your supervisor further - he's either an idiot, a nut case, or both. You need to contact Human Resources and file a formal complaint about your boss. And in the meantime, quit using bad language at work; it's only going to get you in trouble.

jazzeyb
10-04-2005, 10:49 AM
It gets even more complex than that...
I really, if I wanted to be grossly unprofessional have documentation of time after time this guy has reared his ugly head and I believe I have a firm legal ground to sit on, even though in the state of N.C., which is an employment at will state.
I could go to HR, however this is one of those businesses with the open HR policy for complaints, however EVERY staff member in the 3 years I have been here that used that policy has ended up getting fired or has been made so miserable that they have quit. To my count it's around 8 or 9. Here is where it becomes more complex....
Most in our dept. were at some time or another employeed w/ the armed services, so our dept. is run with a tight chain of command.
My Sr. boss, is someone who I sincerely admire, and really like as a person. Regardless of what I may think, I have not / don't really complain to him about my immediate supervisor's basic b.s that I am placed through. I think if I told him exactly how bad it was and named off everything I had against this person in legal terms.. Well I don't know what would happen. But out of both respect and I guess even the HR fear, I would never and could never do anything that might even come close to questiong my Sr. Boss's direction or decisions. My respect for him is just that high. He is a VERY fair boss, and it is alot my fault he does not know the severity of the anguish I amplaced through on a daily basis.
I just feel so lost with what to do, and that is why I am basically begging for help. I love my job, I love my Sr. boss, I am not a tattle tale, and I would never do anything that would be seen as questioning my Sr.'s decisions or direction. Factually, it is my fault I have not had the guts to go to him about everything my Supervisor does, but he also does not like complaining. I know what I "should" do, but it's not what I feel I need to do. Isn't there a fine line of non-gray shaded area somewhere out there.. I am so miserable, and even though I dare not speak of it, some in my dept. think I am a real butt.. I am just very serious with allot of work on my shoulders. Anything you suggest in advance is graciously appreciated.. Again.. I just feel so, so lost and confused....

Beth3
10-04-2005, 11:59 AM
Then do your Sr. boss the courtesty of going to him with your complaints about your immediate supervisor so he has a chance to resolve them without the involvement of another discipline.

Here's the thing - recent court rulings have made it clear that an employee needs to bring an internal complaint of prohibited discrimination before having a viable claim to bring to a government agency. That being the case, your options are (1) do nothing and tolerate your supervisor cramming his religion down your throat as well as discussing work matters that should remain confidential to your family/acquaintances; (2) start looking for another job, cross your fingers and hope you find one; or (3) tell your sr. boss or HR what's going on and hope they take the appropriate action and reel in your supervisor.

I know nothing about your company and therefore I can't tell you what's going to happen if you complain. I can only tell you that on the whole, your fears about retribution are unfounded.

BTW, you can approach the Sr. boss in a manner other than complaining. Present the problem to him as a business problem: the supervisor has been and is doing this, this and this. That is upsetting many employees, including myself, and naturally when people are upset they can't concentrate on their jobs, productivity goes down, turnover goes up and so on. And the religious fanaticism could also cause legal difficulties for the company as well.

It's quite possible for you to build a very valid business case to take to your Sr. boss as to why your supervisor's behavior needs to be addressed for the good of the IT department and the company.

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