We live in Texas. My husband has joint custody of his daughter. She lives with us half of the month and her mom the other half. We pay his ex wife child support. His ex is now changing careers, where we will have his daugther a lot more during the month. Right now we pay child support and health insurance, half of all other expenses and we incur a lot of expenses when she is with us. Can we get Child Support modified if we have the child more than the person receiving Child Support? Although we have Joint manag. conservatoryship, i guess she is consider primary custodian since we pay her child support... We have stayed out of court and agreed on most issues except money. My husband's ex will NOT agree to less money even though we have the child 20 out of 30 days a month. what should we do?

We live in Texas. My husband has joint custody of his daughter. She lives with us half of the month and her mom the other half. We pay his ex wife child support. His ex is now changing careers, where we will have his daugther a lot more during the month. Right now we pay child support and health insurance, half of all other expenses and we incur a lot of expenses when she is with us. Can we get Child Support modified if we have the child more than the person receiving Child Support? Although we have Joint manag. conservatoryship, i guess she is consider primary custodian since we pay her child support... We have stayed out of court and agreed on most issues except money. My husband's ex will NOT agree to less money even though we have the child 20 out of 30 days a month. what should we do?

Your husband can file for a modification because having his daughter more often is a significant change in circumstances.

I suggest talking with the mother and explain to her that if you all have the child more of the month that you need for the amount of support paid to decrease. I suggest talking to her because this is the kind of thing that should be able to be resolved between the adults. Explain to her that if she does not agree to this, that you all may go to court and file to become the primary custodial parents.
To be honest, I think this is a situation that may not end up well and if you push things too far and too much, it could end up being nasty, whereas the status quo is probably in the best interst of the child even if you may not like it. By the time you pay to go to court, you might as well pay what you are now and stop complaining. If you cannot keep the child, tell the mother, who can then change her schedule to keep the child more.

I do agree that this is an issue to be settled between adults and not in court....I also agree that it will end up nasty... We are all very civil to each other right now, and my step daughter loves the fact that we all get along....my point is we are incurring a lot expenses with an additional child in our house over half of the month.... Her father and I have a one year old child together.........my husband's ex asks for and expects half of all expenses for the child IN ADDITIONAL for a nice sum of child support every month..... Just this month asked for clothes for our house to be sent with my step daughter back to her apartment, because she didn't have any clothes at her apartment. She needs our Child support and will not even have a conversation about reducing child support. Our debate is to continue to pay child support and expenses while the child is with us half of the time and will be with us more starting in Jan... or have our civil relationship end because she will not give up Child Support without a fight............