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blueeyesrose
08-15-2005, 08:59 PM
I have worked for a retail company in Florida for the past three years. I love my job. I love nearly all of my fifteen co-workers. We are like a big family in the shop. The shop is owned by a local family and managed by their son, Gary. During the last three years, I have come to respect and admire this family. Three months ago, Gary's wife, Barbara, began working in the shop part-time to help with paperwork. Officially, her job title is the same as mine, except she has not been there as long.

On a side note, our shop has never hired family or close friends as it detracts from our goals of excellent customer service.

At first, Barbara was really nice to everyone. She did her job in the back room and work life was the same. After a couple of weeks, she began doing less in the back room and working more on the sales floor. This was difficult at first because she doesn't have the best customer service skills. However, our assistant manager discussed this with Barbara and things seemed to be okay. After she had been there about a month, Barbara began to be rude to people she didn't like, customers or employees. Everyone joked that maybe she was having a bad week. (Most ladies do at some point or another.) However, she did not change from that moment on. The one employee that she had targeted and was treating badly just up and quit one day. After that, Barbara was okay for about another week.

Then she targeted me. I have been treated increasingly unfairly. I have been bullied and harassed to the point that I would quit, however, I cannot afford to do that. I went to Gary to let him know of my concerns and he told me I was over-reacting. Since then, it has gotten much worse. My weekly hours that I work were but by 10 hours per week. I am still being bullied. I have had malicious rumors spread about me. I have been ridiculed and demeaned in front of customers and fellow employees, so much so that friends of family in the store shopping called my mother and commented on it. Other employees have noticed it as well. My assistant manager told me that she admired the fact that I was still there, she would have quit already.

I feel like I am being singled out and treated unfairly. I realize now that I can no longer talk to my manager about it. Barbara is his wife, of course he is going to side with her. I cannot talk to the store owners, Barbara is their daughter-in-law. They will also side with her.

How can I handle this situation? I can't afford to quit, but I can't put up with this forever.

cactus jack
08-16-2005, 04:05 AM
Then be straight forward and tell it like it is. You say that you have a lot of respect for them? Tell them that. You say they earned that respect? Then tell them that as well. You also tell how difficult it is for you to work with her because of how she treats you? Tell them that as well. Be open and honest with your employer. Not saying it's the answer, but I don't see any alternative.

Beth3
08-16-2005, 10:57 AM
Barbara, being the wife of your supervisor and the DIL of the owners, is apparently there to stay and it seems quite unlikely they're going to do anything to address her behavior. That being the case, you have two options (1) figure out how to tolerate it, or (2) start a job search and when you accept new employment, resign this position.

Nothing illegal is taking place and you have no legal leverage to force Gary or his parents to do something about Barbara. Good luck.

grasmicc
08-16-2005, 01:07 PM
I'd recommend trying to find a new job and then quitting. Sorry you are having so much trouble.

blueeyesrose
08-16-2005, 06:43 PM
I appreciate all of your comments. After much deliberation, I have chosen to mail a letter explaining the situation to the owners. I also have an appointment to speak with my manager candidly about the situation. There are shifts which I may take that will not coincide with her shifts. I plan on speaking with him about this.

My only fear is that they will fire me, which would be unjustified. I fear this because I really need their reference after being there for three years.

I have taken a position with the local community college, however that doesn't begin until January. Until then, I can just hope for the best.

Thank you though for all of your comments.

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