I am a single divored mother that don't have the money for a lawyer. My divorce from my ex was final almost 2 yrs ago. My ex is a alcoholic and was mental abusive to my older children and me. My ex has joint custody with me having primary. He has my daughter for the summer and I can only see her ever other weekend. He is living at home with his parnets right now.

Now for the Question. I just found out that he has my daughter sleeping in the same bed with him at night. My daughter is 12 yrs old almost 13. This does not sit well with me at all. I do know his parnets won't let anyone to check on the kids when my ex is not there. I get her this weekend and I want to know if I can legally keep her and not let my ex have her back until other sleeping arrangments can be made for my daughter? I know she has her own room and bed here at home with me. I also did find out that He don't have to provide her a room but at least a seperate bed. If I try to talk to my ex about this me will just inore me like he has for several yrs and keep doing what he wants. I don't need to be put in jail because I denied the court order of his time with his child. But I don't feel right in letting her go back with him until she gets her own bed.

Aye help or info on how to handle this will be greatly appreciate.

Call DCF immediately and demand that your daughter be removed from the home and into your custody if he does not voluntarily allow the girl to come home and live with you and let her visit him in day visits if you are in the same area. You should have no problems with that. Tell the father to come to your home to see the child, or see her in a public place with others present. Maybe set up a time line and action plan for more suitable arrangements for your daughter.