One of my friends was pregnant and asked to live with my fiance and I and she did from March until beg of Aug. Her daughter was born in April. We took very good care of her and the baby. The only thing is that my friend has a lot of physciatric problems. She is now going into a 24 hour supervised group home and her daughter that my fiance and I grew very attached to in 4 months is in Department of Children & Families in CT care. Now my ex friend now has to prove to the state that she is willing to take care of herself before she can get her daughter back. My fiance and I really want to adopt her. We are getting married next year and we plan on having our own after we are married but both of us really want this baby girl. Does anyone know what we should do who we should talk to. Any advice would be a very big help! :confused:

If you are a friend, maybe you should try to encourage the friend to get better to care for her child and offer to be legal guardians of the child and caregivers to the child, something you can do with a power of attorney, then petition for legal guardianship. Instead, you call her an ex friend and want to adopt her baby. I am not trying to be judgmental, but questioning your motives calling her an ex friend and just being focused on the baby and not the mother who stayed with you who you know has problems, that can get better, and a woman who probably trusted that you would try to care about her, and not just the baby.
I think you all need to question your motives before doing anything. If you are friends, you would want to be a temporary caregiver, unless or until the mother says it is best you adopt. Therefore, maybe it is best the child is in foster care if you are not going to support the same goal as the state- the mother getting better and able to care for herself, then the child. When the point comes where third partyt professionals assess this is not going to happen and/or the mother is willing to terminate her parental rights because she knows she is never going to be better, then talk of adoption is appropriate, but not now. You are jumping the gun and come off as trying to take the child you are attached to prematurely.

ps. I am personally not into folks saying they are former friends. You know this woman has problems, so be a friend or not, but do not be kind during pregnancy, then she is a former friend now she is in difficulty and your motives are about stealing her child and not being friend-like.