Hi, In my divorce I lost custody not because I did wrong but because I worked in a night club in 1999. I appealed shortly after and lost because my ex husband remarried after 30 days of being divorced since then I have become best friends with her and she has informed me on a daily basis of the abuse and alcoholism that my ex is still putting women through I have recently sued for custody he has 4 DWI's and 2 PI's a history of abuse and I just need to know if anyone thinks I can lose or if anyone has had similar problems. I have gone to college gotten a degree and remarried myself after 5 years. never had a drug/alcohol problem or anything.. My ex since I filed has started telling myt girls lies and trying to brainwash them fortunately they are at an age where they dont believe it. I have daily calls from his current wife recorded for the last 3 years my daughters arent doing well in school and I think if he gets to keep them I will end up a grandmother at 30.
Neways some advice would be helpful we go to court Aug.24, 2005 :( :(

Hi, In my divorce I lost custody not because I did wrong but because I worked in a night club in 1999. I appealed shortly after and lost because my ex husband remarried after 30 days of being divorced since then I have become best friends with her and she has informed me on a daily basis of the abuse and alcoholism that my ex is still putting women through I have recently sued for custody he has 4 DWI's and 2 PI's a history of abuse and I just need to know if anyone thinks I can lose or if anyone has had similar problems. I have gone to college gotten a degree and remarried myself after 5 years. never had a drug/alcohol problem or anything.. My ex since I filed has started telling myt girls lies and trying to brainwash them fortunately they are at an age where they dont believe it. I have daily calls from his current wife recorded for the last 3 years my daughters arent doing well in school and I think if he gets to keep them I will end up a grandmother at 30.
Neways some advice would be helpful we go to court Aug.24, 2005 :( :(

I hope that you have an attorney, if you do, just do what he/she says and it should work out okay. As long as you have the proper and ADMISSABLE proof of your ex's problems you have a better chance.
Also, that you have gone back to school and bettered yourself will play a part.

The big question is this- is this hearing going to be heard by the same Judge that awarded custody in 1999? If so, it may be a problem because it doesn't make sense that a Judge would have awarded custody to a father with DUIs, PIs and history of abuse rather than give a mom who worked in a nightclub custody. So either the Judge was very biased, or you've left something out.

From what you've posted though, it sounds like you should have a good chance at custody, and I wish you well.

You seem to be on the right track. I suggest that you get copies of the arrest history and charges/convictions for the husband and detail the declien of the kids- teacher comments, report cards, parent conference notes, etc... and go to court and tell them that it is not in the best interest of the kids for them to remain with their father as custodial parent, and that maybe his visitation should be limited until he addresses his substance abuse and violence and anger issues. You should win.