Hi! I have a question. My ex boyfriend and I went to court on Friday regarding custody of our son. (who is 4 1/2 months old) He was requesting 50/50 with one week with mother and one week with father. The judge ended up giving him tuesdays & thrusdays from 4-6pm and saturday and sundays from 9am to 1pm, except for the 1st weekend of the month. My question is, am I required to give him my car seat, diapers, bottles & formula? Or is that something that he should have to go purchase himself? Personally I feel he should have to purchase those things himself.

I doubt you are required by law to send these articles along with your child for his fathers visitation, however I hope you stop to consider your child's
safety and comfort while he is away. At the very least make sure a suitable carseat is available and properly installed. I hope anything sent will come back to you in the same condition. Good Luck

As much as we all hate to, everyone in these situations have to send things to the other parent's house for their children. You will just have to be mature about it and know that it is for the children. You want to know that while they are with that other parent, they have anything that they might need. You are talking about diapers and bottles so I assume that this is a rather young child. What is the big deal with sending the car seat and your diaper bag? Yeah, make him have toys and clothes at his house but diapers and bottles...just send the stuff with your child.

If he plans to be an involved father, he should buy these items and provide them for the child during his visitation periods, especially if you cannot risk these items not being returned wiht the child for cost reasons.

I agee with elklaw. If a parent is planning on being an involved and active parent they should reflect this by having the "basics" on hand. I think it's nice to offer up the diapers and such but, it would probably make you feel more secure in knowing that these kinds of things won't go overlooked or expected to come from one source on an on-going basis. ;)

If you are concerned with the father not having these things for your child when on visitation, then by all means, send the needed items. I know know that they SHOULD have all needed items for the child already there, but for your child's well being, if you are EVER concerned about them not having anything necessary, please make sure, as the responsible parent, that it is provided.