I am the male boss of a woman who seems to be infatuated with me and is harrassing my family. She sends gifts to me with cards that make my wife think we are having an affair. I have told her I don't want her talking to any members of my family or sending gifts but she keeps doing it. May I fire her?

One question- What's keeping you from firing her?

I am concerned she will sue for discrimination. She has been very crafty so far and has tried to make it seem innocuous. Lots of gifts, anonymous letters and flowers to me and my wife with crafty wording such as it has been a pleasure working under you with a gift on boss's day, etc. She is a sales rep and the only female.

Do you have any witnesses to her "crafty" behavior? In other words, go to someone in authority and explain the situation. Ask for their assistance.

You should also make sure that a letter is sent from the company (or, if they won't do it, work with an attorney) to her. The letter should be sent by return receipt required. The letter should say that you do not want to be the recipient of her attention, that you object to the presents given to you and saying something like, "as you know, I have never expressed any romantic attention toward her nor have I made any sexual overtures toward you". Remind her of the company's policy against sexual discrimination and harassment and that she should report any concerns to the HR Department (or to _____________ - the name of a more senior level manager).

You may wish to remind the company that this letter is to not only protect you but to protect the company from a complaint of illegal harassment. Provide this reminder to them in writing, asking for their assistance in protecting you against sexual harassment. If your company refuses, they could be found in violation of discrimination/harassment laws - and you have the authority to file a complaint yourself.

All of these items will help you in defending yourself, should she in turn file a complaint.