I filed for divorce, and just signed the papers today. Over the weekend, I was talking to my ex husband about how he is not involved in our daughter's life, when he says he wants to be. He hasn't called her since Christmas, will not write her letters, send postcards, and didn't even call her on her birthday. I really got in a heated argument about how he doesn't have any contact with her at all! I only talk to him online, so that I have our conversations in message archive for future reference. Will keeping the conversations help me later in court? He suggested that my boyfriend (who will be my fiance after the divorce is final) that he should adopt our daughter since he is here with her everyday, and she calls him Daddy too. My boyfriend wants too after we are married, and my ex husband had agreed to it twice after he brought it up. Can I have his rights relinguished? It's clear that he doesn't participate in her life at all. Does he have to start the process of giving her up first? Or can I do it? How can I get the nessasary forms? I have to go to a parenting class also before I go to court over the divorce, how do I do a parenting plan, when he isn't involved? Do I just split holidays up or what? I really need some advise! I live in Tennessee by the way. Thanx! :confused:

Maybe the fiance adopting the child is a good idea if he wants that. If that is the case, after the marriage terminates and you marry the finace, you can file a petition for stepparent adoption with the bio father relinquishing his parental rights. When that ends, so does future child support payments.