I am from Michigan I have a 2 1/2 year old girl that has a dad that has just recently started his *reasonable* visitation.. He chose to not see her for 2 years due to warrants but now that they are cleared up he is demanding his rights.. I have full, legal, physical custody of her and he has seen her 7 times at his convience never consistant.. my daughter still has no clue on who he is.. the last 2 times he demanded to take her.. in which I (according to the MI laws) had to let him,, I told him 2 hours.. he brought her back in 4.. next time same thing happened... my daughter talked nothing about him afterwards never says nothing about him at all.. it feels like I have to let her go with a stranger and it makes me sick.. Today he called telling me when he was coming to get her.. I told him I think it would better for him to see her at my house or I will go met him cuz I dont think she in comfortable.. he basically said NO.. if I dont let him take her he will take me to court and take all his rights taking her for 2 weeks... and not letting me see her.. So now I am afraid if I let him take her he wont bring her back,, and there is nothing I can do for 21 days... Is that true? I am planning on filing a visitation motion as soon as I get the money but in the process what can I do to make sure she stays with me? :confused:

Do not allow him anything but supervised visitation and go back to court and seek it out in writing that he gets supervised visitation. Do not let his threats get to you. Go file first and in good faith and explain what you did here. You are not trying to keep him from the child but the child does not know him, he has had a history of many warrants and you would be a bad parent if you let the child go with him and he has not kept his word on bringing her back on time, and the child is uncomfortable with him. I think the court should order a supervised visitation and development of a parenting plan. Be proactive and about your child's best interests. If he cannot face the consequences of his past behavior, that is not your problem, but go file in court for supervised visitation asap and tell why. Do it on your own if you cannot afford a lawyer. Also, reread your custody order because I doubt it gives him unsupervised visitation, but reasonable visitation and for someone who has ignored their child for over 2 years and haas a history of warrants, it is reasonable to limit visitation to supervised visitation after they do not return the child on time and the child is afraid of them. So do not let him intimidate you.

It says nothing in papers just *reasonable* it was whatever I got when He was found the father, I havent went to court at all yet for this.. So its just the standard *reasonable*.. He is threatening me that he will take me to court and get all his visitation everything that the reasonable visitation guidelines say.. and that is scary.. I know that a court should not grant that to him being he dont know the child even though he thinks he does after 5 visits not to mention in long intervals.. but I know better.. but the way my luck has been going.. I wouldnt doubt he gets all he wants.. he is 12,000.00 behind in support and they arent doing anything to him.. he keeps going to court they dismiss it.. cause he tells them he is going to pay and pays one payment (that started last month) of 100.00 so I guess in the courts eyes.. that should support my child its really unreal I think.. thank you so much for your input.. Now.. he wants to get her tomarrow (sunday) i am planning on filing this week.. should I let him take her.... then file on monday? What I am afraid of is if i keep her from him.. he will go file and I will lose.. isnt that crazy but stranger things have happened...