my x and i are in a custody battle i got pregnant at 15 he was 20 i had our son when i was 16 we split up i took care of our son and went to school and lived with my mom. he married this vindictive woman whose much older then him with three children. she is now mom and im other mom the problem im having is we now have joint custody he is the primary house i get every other weekend and split holidays i also get summer. he moved seven hours away from me and i havnt seen my son in almost 6 months. i have the money to get him but my husband works and we have a 19 mo old son and a 4 mo old daughter. how do i get him to legaly move back. i have a new baby my son has never even met before. could i get custody because of that? someone please help i just want my child back. :(

I hope you are o.k.? I know how you feel. It's unfair, and unjust. I really think you have an advantage here. You are your child's mother. You raised that baby as a sole custodian, I hope you have a little money. YOu need a roundtrip tkt, and go to the court in the city your child resides w/ his father. His new girlfriend/wife is probably raising your child like her own, but how do you know? I know you can't give up! Go see an attorney at the court asap. Your kids are the perfect age to fly without having to buy another seat. Just get your best friend, sister, mother, husband if you can, to go with you and hold the second child on your laps. You'll need support, and you'll need a babysitter. I would go visit your child this month. Just go to cheaptickets.com and at least check the fares, and a car rental. I know you can do this. You need as much support as you can get. Bring any and all police reports on your ex. Simply try to find as much dirt on paper about him as possible and get the advise of an attorney. Some times you can have help filing all the paper work yourself. You may get a break on the filing fee, and they can waive it. You just center yourself. Focus on the result you want. Believe your own truth. Some times all the mean people around you start getting you to believe they are right. THey'll turn you into mud if you don't take a stand sweetie. I have learned the hard way. I would never go to court without an attorney! BUt, you can get advise on how to file. I wonder? Are you the petitioner in the case? Did you lose custody because he talked you into it? What happened is not my business, I just think you should go and try to get your child back. You are that child's foundation. A one on one relationship is harmul to the child if it's abandoned, don't you think? There is hope. Don't give up! All my prayers and love :)

Extraordinary :)

i was 17 when he got sole custody it took three years for me to even get joint i have been to court 4 times over custody he has a attorney i never have. i dont have the money for that im not to scared to do it alone i just dont know where i stand as far as the law goes but i have read that its in my favor having blood sibblings. and he violates all the time as far as the custody order goes. i just dont know where to go from here im at a dead end. :confused:

If you are refused visitation, file a contempt charge against him in the court and if you go there and are refused visitation, call the police and provide them with a copy of the order to enforce. Now you are married and in a family environment, you should have a good chance at getting the child back. But if the father is being mean, get that on the record in the form of contempt and police reports so you can document his behavior. If it is persistent enough, it should help you get primary physical custody over the child.