to start i'm in the navy, my husband is a civilian. he is having a lot of trouble with his childs mother. he would really like to get the parental rights taken away because she is certifibly crazy. she never calls my husband she calls (harasses) his mother. the only thing that we can think of is to give up rights but i'm pretty sure you have to have the mother sign for that, and there is no way she is giving up the money. we live in florida they live in mississippi. mine and my husbands state of residence is mississippi. i'm 7mths pregnant and me and my husband are tring to get on with our life and get rit of the old. does anyone know exactly how hard it is to give up rights in the state of mississippi and if there arr any loopholes.

I just read your post? I'm confused about how you wrote you're wondering if giving up rights to his child will make it better, but aren't sure she'll allow him to, and refuse to sign because she won't recieve support/alimony if that happened? Hmmmm.........I also read you were both still residents of the same state the child and mother are in.....but, you are actually, physically in another state. I hope I read this right. I think going back and filing with the local family court would be my first move. I would try to terminate her rights, as she is acting obsessive and harrassing you and your family. I wonder why she feels so angry? Some people just don't want to accept change in their lives. I think she may be feeling rejected and is so proud she wants to lash out. If she is threatening you, you could get a restraining order on her, and talk to an attorney, or maybe attempt to communicate with a certified letter. She may surprise you, if your letter doesn't make her feel defensive. Perhaps she just needs to know you really don't want to challenge her or have this type of relationship. Your children will be related. No matter what, everyone needs to acknowledge that. I would hope you being the bigger person in the situation, you have to worry enough about with your own family, would send a message to your mother in law and to her. Your new baby, is the sibling of the other child. In a whacked out way, it sucks, but it's what you chose when you married this man. He has to have really knocked your socks off Hu??? :D Just kidding, I am sorry you are dealing with her abusive behavior while your pregnant. I can understand just giving her full rights to her child and keeping her out of your lives completley. But, I think people are really pretty much, the same as far as wanting a happy life. People have children, men cheat, women cheat, men get other women pregnant, women divorce, have more children, and all these children bring new responsablilities, we have to realize they are all going to grow up. They'll be eighteen sooner than we realize. We can also die at any time and any day that goes by where we aren't living in the present, takes away from new memories we want to have in the future. I don't know. I just hope you think about everything before making a move. Yours is a TOUGH one. ;)

I think you need to consult the mother about the father relinquishing parental rights and come to an agreement. It may be tough so you may need to make a financial offer to get her to do it. Some may criticize this move, but if he is in the Navy going wherever there is not time to be dealing with whacked out mothers on a practical level and if you are never going to be able to get adequate visitation with the child, what difference can you make. All that being said, you can go visit the base JAG legal assistance who should be able to assist you in drafting a termination of parental rights agreement, or in seeking sole custody of the child. Hopefully, even if parental rights are terminated, the kids can someday know each other anyway.