tshaalan1
11-18-2004, 10:59 AM
I previously posted exerpts from my personal diary describing how my wife (at the time), "Maia" (MariaRosa Suller Miravite, from Metro Manila, Philippines), was battering me several times a week, physically abusing our two young children several times a week, psychologically abusing all three of us several hours per day, harassing our neighbors and damaging our rented apartment on several occasions. The police and other social agencies refused help me defend ourselves against her all the time this was going on. I desperately begged (alt.dads-rights, misc.legal) for help getting legal help to remove her from the family so my children and I would be safe, but nobody offered any help at all. (See links in first two numbered paragraphs below.) Later when I was trying to prepare an application for a domestic violence restraining order against Maia, I posted a first draft in these newsgroups again, asking for help, but nobody offered me any help, and some people actually rebuked me for wanting to protect my chidlren from their grossly abusive mother. (See links in third numbered paragraph below.) See after that for more DiaryExcerptsForPolice that I have never before posted here, and for an update on what happened after all those events. Links to previously posted UseNet-newsgroup articles now on Google: (1) Google search keywords: Maia kicked hit divorce smoking http://groups.google.com/groups?selm=25hdm3%24kkv%40openlink.open- link.com (Diary excerpts for police, from start thru 1993.Aug.17) http://groups.google.com/groups?selm=1993Aug31.112815.25889%40ccd- .harris.com (Response from the only person who read and understood what I had posted and was sympathetic to my plight, but not one person responded with any offer of help in getting the legal help we agreed I needed to protect my children from her.) (2) Google search keywords: Clarinet Brad earned income psychotic http://groups.google.com/groups?selm=2hlam1%24ett%40openlink.open- link.com (Diary excerpts for police, from 1993.Sep.01 thru 1994.1.19) (Not one person responded with any useful advice/help then either.) (3) Google search keywords: Maia nagged Zachary drunks shut nagging http://groups.google.com/groups?selm=2kn3r3%24sge%40openlink.open- link.com (First draft of restraining order, including summary of worst abuse., separated into child-abuse first then spousal battery next.) (Not only did nobody respond with any offer of help, but they actually attacked me for posting my desperate appeal for help and my accurate and truthful report of how she Maia (MariaRosa Miravite) had bettered me and abused the children.) The part of DiaryEntriesForPolice from 1994.Jan.22 onward was never posted, because nobody on the net would help me in any way, and in fact I got castigated for posting about my plight, and being very shy these abusive remarks about me from people on the net hurt me very much, so it was a waste of time and a painful thing to post to the net. But now that Google has revived the first two parts of this file in their archives (see URLS earlier), here's that last part now: %%0000 Start of 94122-PD.Feeder (excerpts for police & D.A. & %%lawyer here) %1994.Jan.22 04 *ASSAULT* *CHILDABUSE* Yesterday Maia nagged at Zachary for a long time including about how whereever we move to there'll be drunks. I finally had to order her to shut up and stop nagging. In the evening she threw a book at Zachary, hitting him in the back and leaving a 5-inch-long red mark on his back, with the lower 3 inches having a welt (swollen line). Zachary came in my room crying and I looked at it. I asked Maia why she did it but she refused to give me any answer except "I'm tired". After a couple minutes the swelling increased somewhat making the welt quite noticable, so I called the police to have them take a look and possibly arrest Maia for whatever (assault, child abuse). They took about ten minutes to get here, during which time the swelling decreased to about how much it was when I orignally saw it, but it was enough for them combined with her past actions and her mood this time. Maia refused to speak English to them, pretended she didn't speak any English, refused to cooperate with them. They took her into custody for psychiatric evaluation, FINALLY, more than a year after I started asking them to do that because of her beatings of me and going berzerk. Zak's fine now, just a little pain for a few minutes then, no break in the skin. The police allowed Maia to smoke two cigarettes in the corner bedroom while they were questionning her, over my protests and in violation of my rights to live in a non-smoking environment per our marriage agreement. Hours later it still stinks in there terribly. (Addenda: It took 1.5 days before the stink had cleared out enough that I could be in that room without holding my breath.) Update: Mountain View police have on file report 94-972 for that incident, but I'm not allowed to see the report because it involves possible child abuse. %1994.Jan.22 19 *WASTE* I found some time to start cleaning up the mess of dirty dishes etc. that Maia left in the kitchen, and at the bottom of the sink I found my large cooking pot absolutely full of cooked rice wasted (pot filled with dirty water with the rice), about four times as much rice as I ever cook at any one time, ALL totally wasted. Maia is totally crazy!! %1994.Feb.26 12 *ABDUCTION* I was talking with Zachary about how he misses me when I'm working on the computer and when he's at childcare, and he said he missed me when he was in the Philippines, so asked him why he wouldn't let me hold him when I picked them up at the airport when they came back, and he said it was because "Mommy said you would be a monster". %1994.Apr.20 19 *HARASS* This morning Maia telephoned me, begged me to let her come home, but then claimed she never did anything wrong, never made any noise or caused trouble, the only trouble was my phoning the police, so I excused myself from the conversation and hung up. Since she still hasn't admitted anything bad she did all that time, I don't want her back her for a VERY long time, I don't believe she'll admit her wrongdoings and make amends for a VERY long time, at least 6 more months, but more likely at least a year from now. % (Also Maia made some harassing phone calls in September trying to nag me into not getting the restraining order, but I haven't had time to record them here.) (Also, Zachary told me this year that when he was in the Philippines last year he missed me badly and wanted to talk with me on the phone but mommy wouldn't let him talk to me.) After that last section of DiaryEntriesForPolice, the following new events happened in this regard: Maia was held in psychiatric custody (danger to others) for nearly two months, being released into her aunt's custody on our son's birthday, before I could finish the restraining-order application, but fortunately her aunt kept her far away from us long enough that I could finish the application and get the order to show cause (OSC) and temporary restraining order (TRO) and temporary custody of children to me. But the sheriff's office refused arrange to serve it on her because she was now living out of the county, and it took me about two months to finally find somebody willing to serve it on her. We went to court and the judge granted me a one-year restraining order and permanent custody of the children to me. Then a half year later Maia finally agreed to go to counseling, which she had refused all the time we had been together (Kaiser offered free counseling to us), but now that she was no longer covered under my Kaiser HMO their offer was no longer available, but we found a place willing to give us free counseling and did so for several months (after I first contacted the court to notify them of my agreed-upon changes to the restraining order). Maia never did accept responsibity for any of the batterings and other abuse, and she actually became abusive by claiming there was this other guy she was going to marry and get custody of our children so I'd never see them again unless I agreed to get back together with her. But the counselor thought she was improved enough to try getting back together, so we tried as follows, two or more of each class of meeting, once per week: - The two of us met in the park right after therapy, unsupervised, just sitting and talking. She didn't say anything worthwhile, but at least she didn't try to beat me up, nor verbally abuse me. - After school, I brought the children to the park and the four of us met together, with only me supervising to make sure she didn't abuse the children in any way. Then the dangerous stuff began. Just before we started counseling, my children and I had gotten on Section 8 housing and had moved out of the place where the four of us had lived, and so Maia didn't know where we now lived. But now the counselor insisted I go to the next step of reunification (again getting the restraing order modified by my permission so this would be legal while still protecting us by the other provisions of the order including my sole custody of the children): Letting Maia visit at our new apartment for a couple hours once per week. Then letting Maia stay overnight once per week. Then letting Maia stay over the whole weekend from Friday 5PM until it was time to take the children to school Monday morning. Things went OK during the short visits and overnight visits, but during the weekend visits Maia became abusive again: verbally abusing me in the car while I was driving Maia around, harassing our new neighbors by yelling at them from our balcony overlooking the parking lot (which risked getting us evicted from our new apartment as she had done with the previous apartment), abducting our son from the supermarket for 20 minutes (she was NOT supposed to ever be alone with him nor take him anywhere without me along, according to the restraining order and the visitation amendment), and burning my son with the corner of a baking pan right out of the oven (leaving a 3-inch triangular second-degree burn which she conceiled from me and didn't get him any treatment, and I didn't know about it until two days later when Zachary came down with Pneumonia and the school nurse found the burn when examining him). At that point I knew Maia had reverted and our children were in danger from her again. (I later found out she had stopped taking her medication and stopped seeing both her psychiatrist and her counselor way back when our joint counseling started, but she had lied to us the whole time, claiming she was still doing all that.) I went back to the court to get a new restraining order, but the judge rejected it because only one restrainng order can be granted to any one person except if the person has filed an order of divorce or separation first. I was at that time still hoping that someday Maia would get appropriate medication and therapy and eventually become a suitable person to re-join our family, so I filed for separation rather than divorce, and got a new temporary restraining order. When Maia came to our apartment to harass us, the police served the TRO on her but refused to serve any of the other papers in the set. Later the same day she returned and was arrested and convicted of violating the restraining order and spent ten days in jail. (Six months is the correct sentence for violating a restraining order, so she got off very easy!!) The next month she came back to harass us again, and was convicted again, and spent twenty days in jail. Then she started making many many harassing telephone calls to us. Her aunt, in whose custody she had been placed by authorities, had gotten fed up with her now that she was psychotic again, and had thrown her out, so she was homeless and wandering around San Jose harassing us from pay telephones, and the police couldn't find her for several months so they couldn't arrest her again, until several months later when she showed up in an emergency psychiatric facility in San Jose and since there was a warrent for her arrest she was transferred from psychiatric custody to criminal custody as soon as possible. Both the District Attorney and her probation officer were fed up with her ppsychosis by this time, so rather than have to listen to her rantings during another court trial for the telephone harassment, the D.A. made a deal to let her leave the country and go back to her family in the Philippines to avoid prosecution. She is not supposed to return to the USA, but I don't know any way to make sure ths is enforced. From her family's home in the Philippines, Maia continued to harass us by telephone, making up to twenty attempts at a collect telephone call via AT&T in a row starting around 4 AM when I needed to get my sleep so I could safely drive the chidren to school later that morning. Her criminal harassment of us by attemts at collect phone calls continued for years, but because there's no extradition treaty between the Philippines and the USA, there is no way USA authorities can have her arrested and charged with her continued crimes. I finally had to spend an extra $10/month for Caller-ID and Privacy Manager (when they finally became available years late) to block the harassing phone calls (which showed up as UNAVAILABLE on my Caller-ID before Privacy Manager was available to intercept allsuch calls). My former wife, MariaRosa Suller Miravite ("Maia"), is a pppsychotic and grossly abusive person, who has committed about 18 counts of felony spousal battery against me (among more than 40 times she attacked me violently), 24 counts of child abuse (23 while we were living together, plus the burning of my son's leg and disallowing him to get any treatment for it), plus other mayhem and abuse of neighbors and violating restraining order and trespassing and many tens of instances of telephoen harassment. She is an undesirable person who should not be allowed back in the USA. I have no money for a lawyer, nor to pay for long distance calls to immigration in Washington DC, and there are no decent free legal services available. Will somebody please tell me how to make sure she never comes back to the USA except to go to prison for some of the felonies she has committed? Is there any procedure for getting a hearing to label a person undesirable and permanently barring them from entry back in the USA? Is there a way to get her Permanent Resident Alien status revoked? Also, with my former wife out of the local area, I've been unable to serve the legal order of separation on her, so all our former community property is still in limbo, and I'm forbidden to dispose of even worthless junk that we owned in common. Ever since Maia violated the second restraining order, I have wanted a divorce instead of just a separation. I realized from that point onward that there is no hope she'll ever be a decent mother to our children nor a decent wife to me. Her continued telephone harassment of us since that point, and her grossly abusive postcards and letters to our children after separation, have proven even moreso that I need to divorce to get her out of my life and our children's lives forever. I might want to re-marry, but can't do that legally until our divorce is final, which can't occur until six months after I get the divorce papers served on her, which can't occur while she's in the Philippines where I hope she stays forever. Somebody please tell me how to get separation and divorce papers served on her while she's out out of the USA. I have no money to pay for anything like this. What free foreign-legal-paper-service exists for low-income people such as myself?
This teaches people not to marry foreign *****es, all they want is to
come to the US and they are nothing but trouble.
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This teaches people not to marry foreign *****es, all they want is to
come to the US and they are nothing but trouble.
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Posted via http://britishexpats.com
