22Ted
07-26-2005, 06:10 PM
There is a part of me that simply cannot believe you are writing these
words. You have to be a troll.
OTH, as an apar myself I cannot sit silently any longer. While I don't
expect to change your mind, I must correct you on one thing:
My daughter has no "history" with my family. Her history belongs with the
people who both gave her life, then gave her away. Her history lies
somewhere in a place known as Guandu town. The people who didn't raise her.
The culture that wouldn't allow it. An older sister perhaps. And by now a
younger brother. Cousins, grandparents, other relatives. A language she
will never speak fluently again.
Her history is eleven months in an orphanage. Her history is the little
sleeper she wore when they placed her in my arms. And a name the orphanage
gave her. That is her history.
What she has with our family is more like a beginning. A sapling whose
seed blew in from 15,000 miles and seventeen time zones. A firm young tree
with her roots planted firmly in the Mile Woods. But she came from
someplace else. And no matter what we do as parents, though we love her
more than life itself, we can never change the fact that she came from
somewhere else.
She will also one day look in the mirror, see those slanted eyes and ebony
hair and wonder "who am I"? "Where did I come from". And if she picks up
an ounce of my curiousity she'll want to find out.
At that time, I'll buy us both a ticket.
You are simply the nuttiest case we've had 'round here in ages.
Still can't believe you are for real...
(the)duckster
"Cynthia" <cindymcgeemom@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:T7idnYU57aM7EXjfRVn-uw@comcast.com... I don't think it is about feeble-mindedness at all. Adopted chldren _do_ have a history. They have a _life_ and they hvae a _family_!!! Why would anyone feel it is right to take a step backwards into a situation that everynoe involved did their best to save the child from in the first
place?!
words. You have to be a troll.
OTH, as an apar myself I cannot sit silently any longer. While I don't
expect to change your mind, I must correct you on one thing:
My daughter has no "history" with my family. Her history belongs with the
people who both gave her life, then gave her away. Her history lies
somewhere in a place known as Guandu town. The people who didn't raise her.
The culture that wouldn't allow it. An older sister perhaps. And by now a
younger brother. Cousins, grandparents, other relatives. A language she
will never speak fluently again.
Her history is eleven months in an orphanage. Her history is the little
sleeper she wore when they placed her in my arms. And a name the orphanage
gave her. That is her history.
What she has with our family is more like a beginning. A sapling whose
seed blew in from 15,000 miles and seventeen time zones. A firm young tree
with her roots planted firmly in the Mile Woods. But she came from
someplace else. And no matter what we do as parents, though we love her
more than life itself, we can never change the fact that she came from
somewhere else.
She will also one day look in the mirror, see those slanted eyes and ebony
hair and wonder "who am I"? "Where did I come from". And if she picks up
an ounce of my curiousity she'll want to find out.
At that time, I'll buy us both a ticket.
You are simply the nuttiest case we've had 'round here in ages.
Still can't believe you are for real...
(the)duckster
"Cynthia" <cindymcgeemom@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:T7idnYU57aM7EXjfRVn-uw@comcast.com... I don't think it is about feeble-mindedness at all. Adopted chldren _do_ have a history. They have a _life_ and they hvae a _family_!!! Why would anyone feel it is right to take a step backwards into a situation that everynoe involved did their best to save the child from in the first
place?!
