Ok everyone-
Looking for a little help on this. My husband is currently to pay his ex wife directly for the set child support. He does so each and every month. This is the 2nd time that she has lost the checks! :mad: (and she admits she has lost them, it's not that she is not getting them from him) What are the standards if this happens? There has to be more than just deducting the stop pay fees and reissuing them. Any and all advice is appreciated.

The only way to solve your problem is to have your husband go down to the prosecutor's office and have the payments set up through them. This way, if she loses the checks, she has to wait on the support division to stop payment on the check and re-issue another check. This way, it is no longer your problem. If your husband is making his payments then he has nothing to worry about.

The previous poster is correct! He should not pay her directly..I dont recommend that to anyone to be honest. If he was ordered by the courts to pay child support he should send his money to the Department of Social Services or whatever agency in your state handles child support enforcement and they should distribute the money to her...that way you will also have a record of payments and she will never be able to say he didnt pay (which could result in an arrearge balance).

I have known several different people who paid their ex religiously. What they failed to do was pay through the court. When the ex got mad he/she took it to court and sued for back support. It was allowed because it was considered a "gift" because the court had no record of payment. My one friend had signed receipts from his ex that he had paid and the judge would not accept it. He ended up with like 6 years of back support to pay and he already done so just not through the courts. Just a warning that you can get burnt.

Why are you making such a big deal about 2 lost checks. My goodness! It sounds like a minor thing in the whole scheme of things. It sounds like more is made of this because the new wife has issues to deal with. Life gives us so much to deal with like family dying or someone having cancer. It is fantastic that he pays child support regularly because he loves his kids. Two lost checks is inconvenient for everyone but it is not a crime or a major issue.

Stop the check, and I suggest that you have her sign something allowing an ACH payment directly to her bank account from the husband. If she keeps it up, go get a court order to do direct deposit since it is time consuming and costly for her to lose checks.

if she is reasonable and admitts to losing them maybe you could possibly work some kind of written agreement that if she looses the check you will gladly write another one minus the check cancel fee