my cousin got divorced 4 years ago.a year later they got back together but NEVER remarried.she got pregnent the first time they we 'together' although they were unable to in the 3 years they were married.now she has left him and took the kids.he gets them on the weekends so she can go out and 'play'.she was still with him and another man and just confessed to this the other nite.she was my best friend and i believe she has become unstable.its like she just snapped one day.i would have her 11 month old son for 4-5 days at a time and she would only call maybe 1 or 2 times to check on him.i am worried about the kids safety with her.she has them around different people all the time riding around in a car with no a/c.it is about a 100 degrees here.the kids are 2 and 11 months.she keeps threatening the father she will take off and he will never see the kids again.she even told him if he ever tried to take her kids she would kill him.the father has a nice home, a good job and lots of family around to help him.she has already moved twice and now lives with another single mother and her son.she has no job and no family to help her.his family was her family.he finally changed the bank account because she was spending money like crazy.we have convinced him to talk to a lawyer but i was hoping to hear from someone else about this in the meantime.if anyone has any insight please let usknow.

Do you think she could be going through post partem depression? The not checking on the kids etc. could be a sign of that. If she just seemed to start doing that I would try to get her to see a Doctor. She is lucky to have a friend like you to help her out. Try everything you can to get her to see a DR. This can be a very serious problem. Good luck

thank you but no i dont think its that.she is fine with her 2 year old.she claims to just not worry when the 11 month old is with me.the main problems seem to be she just wants freedom.she doesnt want to be tied down to her boyfriend/ex-husband,yet at the same time she wants everything he has.she says all he wants is sex which i know for a fact isn't true.besides, isnt that part of being in a committed relationship?he talked to a lawyer yesterday and was basically told he would have a very, very small chance of getting custody of the kids because he worked and she didn't.i can understand tha in a way but shouldn't more be taken into account than who works and who don't?he has the nice, stable home and she is always running here and there. i have also read extended family plays a role in it.she has none.it seems like no one thinks of whats good for the kids.they are only thinking of what looks good on paper.

She obviously has some issues, be they medical or psychological or social. I suggest the father call DCF and have them go out there and get the kids if possible, and get the kids removed to his care, and that they encourage the mother to get some help. It would be best if the father can speak to the mother rationally and maybe even have her and the kids all come live with him and maybe that is possible. But the death threat is extreme and that leads me to believe she is unstable- maybe it is postpartum depression, maybe it is something else, but she sounds like she needs some professional help.