Me and my X husband were divorced in March 2005, we run a Chemical Company together, since the divorce everyday i get emails or comments,about how we should be together how good i look, now i got a email that tells me if i dont take him back he will leave the company, Ive complained to the boss, he just tells me stay till after labor day, but i love my job, I waived alimony cause i was told no divorce unless i waived it, he makes more than double what I do. I need my job, but I wont be backed up against a wall either. Someone please offer some advice. I gave 6 week notice today and was told by the boss that he has plans on getting rid of us anyway, so now im realy confussed on what to do.The boss knows about the threats and the emails, but i guess that doesnt matter. HELP!

Tell your boss that your ex-husband is sexually harassing you and ask the boss to please put a stop to the emails from him and any other non-business essential contact at work. I also suggest you speak to the attorney who handled your divorce (or another attorney who practices family law) and discuss the likelihood of obtaining a restraining order against your ex, barring him from contacting you. Given that the two of you run this company together, unless your ex is criminally harassing you this may not be possible but a family law attorney is in the best position to advise you.

Lastly, you may have to come to grips with the fact that you and your ex working for the same company simply is not a good idea and you may have to find a new job in order to get on with your life. Good luck.

Hello!
I have work in a family owned company, and just yesterday the human resource manager called me to his office. He asked me to record the conversation, and he said that somebody gave him my name suggesting that someone has been sexually harassing me. He said they are not accusing me of anything, they are just investigating. However, when he begun taping, his first question was:" Are you in a relationship with anyone?" I said not with anyone from the company....
Anyways at the end of the conversation he said:"make sure you don't talk to anyone about this." which sounded treathening to me. Could you please tell me if what he did was legal at all, and is there anything I can do about it? I want to speak to my supervisor about it, but I'm afraid I will get fired if I do. What should I do?

You don't need to do anything.

If company management has been told that a sexual harassment situation may be taking place, they are obligated to investigate even if no one has formally complained. Sounds like the HR Manager was just trying to determine if you were having a personal relationship with anyone at work that had turned problematic or that someone else may have misconstrued.

Telling you not to discuss the matter is just standard procedure when conducting an investigation like this. Anyone HR speaks to when doing an investigation will be told to keep it confidential. That has to do with protecting the identity of anyone who complained and anyone who has been accused. This isn't "cloak and dagger" stuff - just an attempt to make sure everyone is protected. You don't want your personal business spread all over do you? And sometimes individuals are falsely accused of SH.

I don't see that you have anything to worry about.