I work with a guy who is 48 years old who feel in love with another co-worker who was 21. The issue at hand here is that the girl that he feel for is my married best friend. She dont wnat anything to do with him and i was just in the middle as a friend to both, till one night he got upset that my friend would not marry him... he then at that point sent me some threating text messages to my cell where he stated he would mess up alot of lives and familes that he had nothing to lose.. When i took the issue to HR they sorta ignored my side of the story and refused to even read my messages that i had since it did not happen during work hour. They are wanting to promote him and move him to management, but i dont feel like any one is taking the threats serious. Is there anything i can do about... :mad:

If you feel seriously threatened, you can contact the police.

However, your employer has no legal obligation to get involved in the middle of a dispute between two of their employees; nor does your complain prohibit them from promoting him.

It may or may not be wise of them to disregard what has happened, but based on your post they have not done (or not done) anything for which you can take legal recourse against them.

Was she actually involved with him, or is he just a stalker?

akdeel,

I have to partially disagree with cbg. As you describe it the gentleman in question stated he would "mess up a lot of lives and families and has nothing to lose". It could fall under the rubrick of a threat of workplace violence. At a stretch, it could be construed as creating a "hostile workplace". Did any of the texts take place during working hours? Has he made his feelings known to your friend?

If HR isn't doing the job, I'd go up the chain of command to General Manager or Corporate HR. Just understand any semblance of confidentiality is probably going to go out the window at that point. As the GM, this kind of behavior would give me pause. I wouldn't want one of my directs reports causing or potentially causing this kind of trouble.

All in all, your friend needs to do two things. One, let her husband know what is going on. If he's a stand-up guy, he'll work in her best interest. Two, make her husband visible. Bring him into the office and introduce him around. The other guy should get the message loud and clear.

MikeCJ

Well, its not a hostile work environment in the legal definition of the term but it could cross the line regarding violence and threats.

The term, hostile workplace, has a very specific meaning under the law and this does not meet the legal definition.

Please identify for me specifically what part of their job HR is not doing by refusing to get involved in an non-workplace-related dispute.