My wife was 2 months pregnant when we got together, we got married a month before she had the baby. When she had the baby I was stationed in Germany and she put my name on the birth certificate even though I wasn't there for it. I'm not sure who the biological father is and we are getting divorced now and she filed for child support, and I have a hearing tomorrow, and I was wondering do I have to pay child support for the child? Also we already had the custody hearing and I agreed to taking him on mondays, wednsdays, and sundays.
MomofBoys
03-26-2009, 07:34 AM
My wife was 2 months pregnant when we got together, we got married a month before she had the baby. When she had the baby I was stationed in Germany and she put my name on the birth certificate even though I wasn't there for it. I'm not sure who the biological father is and we are getting divorced now and she filed for child support, and I have a hearing tomorrow, and I was wondering do I have to pay child support for the child? Also we already had the custody hearing and I agreed to taking him on mondays, wednsdays, and sundays.
How is it that you want visitation, but you don't want to support the child? You cannot have it both ways. Parenthood contains responsibilities.
How old is the child? How long were you married? You are not sure who the father is, but are YOU a candidate? Could the child be your biologically?
From what you have posted, you are this child's legal father. So yes, you have to pay support.
mike909245
03-26-2009, 10:05 AM
I am supporting the child, I have him 50% of the time, he has all his own stuff with me, but why should I have to pay his mom child support when i'm not even his biological father, why doesn't she ask his biological father, and no it couldn't possible be mine, she got pregnant while she was deployed and was already 2 months pregnant when we got together. and he is 2 years old. I'll give up visitation if she wants child support, it's not my responisbility, I was just trying to help out.
MomofBoys
03-26-2009, 11:33 AM
I am supporting the child, I have him 50% of the time, he has all his own stuff with me, but why should I have to pay his mom child support when i'm not even his biological father, why doesn't she ask his biological father, and no it couldn't possible be mine, she got pregnant while she was deployed and was already 2 months pregnant when we got together. and he is 2 years old. I'll give up visitation if she wants child support, it's not my responisbility, I was just trying to help out.
It IS your responsibility. If you didn't want to accept the child, you should have filed to disestablish paternity when he was born.
Because you married her and accepted the role of the father, and once you did that, you are no longer allowed to throw it away just because things didn't work out with Mom.
You seem to think you have no responsibility here, but you are the one who married a woman who was pregnant with another man's child and assumed the responsibilities of the father. Your time to deny paternity was when the child was BORN, not two years after the fact, after you have gone through custody hearings, and after you have been supporting the child.
Have you ever filed to disestablish paternity? Was providing for this child ever an issue BEFORE you and his mother decided to divorce?
xena
03-26-2009, 11:55 AM
My wife was 2 months pregnant when we got together, we got married a month before she had the baby. When she had the baby I was stationed in Germany and she put my name on the birth certificate even though I wasn't there for it. I'm not sure who the biological father is and we are getting divorced now and she filed for child support, and I have a hearing tomorrow, and I was wondering do I have to pay child support for the child? Also we already had the custody hearing and I agreed to taking him on mondays, wednsdays, and sundays.
You can't have it both ways.
You cannot be a father figure to the child without the responsibilty that goes along with it.
How old is the child?
IF the child is VERY young, less than 1 years old the court MIGHT allow you to try to disestablish paternity. However, the top priority is the child's best interests. If the child is older, and you have acted as the father, the court will most likely find that it would not be in the child's best interests to lose the only father he has known.
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