nrd
09-25-2008, 06:12 AM
I would like my former sister-in-law to move out because she has been extremely rude to both myself and my husband. I don't know how long a notice I have to give her. I'm also not sure if she is a renter or a guest.
She moved in with us in April because she had been evicted from her apartment for non-payment and had no place else to go. I took pity on her and said she could stay with us. She has been paying us first $90.00 per week and then for about a month now $100.00 a week although I have told her if she doesn't have it it is okay. We are all late middle-aged adults or so I thought.
In early August she started being very disagreeable, pouting, sullen and non-communicative occasionally. This was disturbing but I would talk to her about it and then let it go. The last couple of weeks she has been downright terrible, accusing us of dropping her notebook computer, angrily, yelling, accusing my husband of urinating on the rug in the bathroom (he has Parkinson's disease and he does miss by drips and drops but has not actually urinated on the rug...I think the wax seal is cracked though and the rug does get wet sometimes), and in general blaming us for anything that goes wrong for her. She accused me of leaving the top off the jar of mustard so when she squirted some the top came off, of course I didn't do that, I didn't know it was loose, let alone know I was responsible for making sure her every moment goes smoothly. She carries on about these things like we were her worst enemies and are out to get her. Yesterday morning she accused me of keeping her awake all night by slamming doors and doing laundry, which isn't true, I got up about 10 minutes before she did. She stayed home from work and went back and forth from her bedroom to the bathroom slamming doors herself and muttering, refusing to even look at us. Mid-afternoon she got up and I asked her what was wrong, she stated that she wondered why I even had to ask, that I was what was wrong, that I wouldn't let her sleep when she was sick. She didn't say what was wrong, just that she was sick...which is why I asked her what was wrong, meaning what was making her sick. I really tried to talk to her but this degenerated into an argument where she claimed she had done nothing wrong and that we were not being fair or good to her I told her that her behavior was not acceptable and that she owed us an apology, lacking that I wanted her to move out. First I said in 30 days. More ugly accusations from her, loud, yelling, I said 2 weeks. Even more yelling and accusing, I said be gone by this weekend.
This morning she got up like nothing had ever happened. She started getting ready for work. But it degenerated into another argument when she didn't have enough hot water.
I want her out of here, she's driving me nuts and making my home very uncomfortable for me and my husband. His health is obviously being negatively affected and so is mine but not so obviously. How long do I legally have to give her to get out? My husband and I rent this house. My landlord has given me permission to have a roommate without checking with him first or giving him notice about it as long as this person is not criminal or destructive, etc. (she isn't destructive, she is a convicted felon though not recently). Does the fact that she pays us mean that she rents from us? She pays by the week. Or is she a guest voluntarily contributing to the household expenses. What she pays is nowhere near a third of the total rent and utilities. I read NH RSA 540 but I'm still confused. I don't want to take any more of this and ignoring her doesn't work.
She moved in with us in April because she had been evicted from her apartment for non-payment and had no place else to go. I took pity on her and said she could stay with us. She has been paying us first $90.00 per week and then for about a month now $100.00 a week although I have told her if she doesn't have it it is okay. We are all late middle-aged adults or so I thought.
In early August she started being very disagreeable, pouting, sullen and non-communicative occasionally. This was disturbing but I would talk to her about it and then let it go. The last couple of weeks she has been downright terrible, accusing us of dropping her notebook computer, angrily, yelling, accusing my husband of urinating on the rug in the bathroom (he has Parkinson's disease and he does miss by drips and drops but has not actually urinated on the rug...I think the wax seal is cracked though and the rug does get wet sometimes), and in general blaming us for anything that goes wrong for her. She accused me of leaving the top off the jar of mustard so when she squirted some the top came off, of course I didn't do that, I didn't know it was loose, let alone know I was responsible for making sure her every moment goes smoothly. She carries on about these things like we were her worst enemies and are out to get her. Yesterday morning she accused me of keeping her awake all night by slamming doors and doing laundry, which isn't true, I got up about 10 minutes before she did. She stayed home from work and went back and forth from her bedroom to the bathroom slamming doors herself and muttering, refusing to even look at us. Mid-afternoon she got up and I asked her what was wrong, she stated that she wondered why I even had to ask, that I was what was wrong, that I wouldn't let her sleep when she was sick. She didn't say what was wrong, just that she was sick...which is why I asked her what was wrong, meaning what was making her sick. I really tried to talk to her but this degenerated into an argument where she claimed she had done nothing wrong and that we were not being fair or good to her I told her that her behavior was not acceptable and that she owed us an apology, lacking that I wanted her to move out. First I said in 30 days. More ugly accusations from her, loud, yelling, I said 2 weeks. Even more yelling and accusing, I said be gone by this weekend.
This morning she got up like nothing had ever happened. She started getting ready for work. But it degenerated into another argument when she didn't have enough hot water.
I want her out of here, she's driving me nuts and making my home very uncomfortable for me and my husband. His health is obviously being negatively affected and so is mine but not so obviously. How long do I legally have to give her to get out? My husband and I rent this house. My landlord has given me permission to have a roommate without checking with him first or giving him notice about it as long as this person is not criminal or destructive, etc. (she isn't destructive, she is a convicted felon though not recently). Does the fact that she pays us mean that she rents from us? She pays by the week. Or is she a guest voluntarily contributing to the household expenses. What she pays is nowhere near a third of the total rent and utilities. I read NH RSA 540 but I'm still confused. I don't want to take any more of this and ignoring her doesn't work.
