LostParent
07-03-2008, 02:09 PM
HELP!!! Hi, I'm new to this found this site on a search engine.
Sorry so long, PLEASE READ I NEED ADVICE. :(:confused:
I'm 40yrs old live in Texas. I have been a single parent since June 2003 and divorced Nov 2005 due to his cheating and in the end he hit me. I have 2 kids’ girl-15 and boy-11. My X has a girlfriend he has been with since July 2003 and they have a 3 yr old son together.
My question/problem is my daughter 15 has taken a turn for the worse she failed 4 classes and is now in summer school. In addition I found 3 cigs in her room plus there is more, I blew up handled it all wrong. I then took away all her privileges; she was home for 4 days went to stay w/her dad for 2 weeks and has been gone for a month. Will not speak to me and is telling everyone she is moving in w/her dad. It had been almost 3 weeks and her dad is already telling me we need to change the court orders. He tells me she wants to live their & has for a long time, this is news to me since she and his girlfriend do not get along most of the time. She tells me and her friends how much she hates her step-mom and wishes she would leave. They use her for cleaning, cooking, laundry and babysitting cause he races and they are always drinking if not at home then at the bar. She always has that baby. They fight non-stop at time physical. She is very unstable and does not have custody of her other 2 boys one lives with his dad and the other with his dad's grandparents. They are always gone leaving our 2 kids alone watching their 1/2 brother. I have no proof on this only what my kids and other people have told me that and when I have called my X in the evenings he has had our kids he's normally at a bar and I can tell he's been drinking. In addition to this there is a boy who lives next door to her dad she is now dating (I found out through her friends). They are at each others houses non stop and her dad and girlfriend are always gone, I’m afraid of what’s going to end up happening.
I know with time she will think more clearly she is mad at me right now for grounding her, when she went to her dad's they did nothing and have been making life sweet for her so she will stay. She has not told me herself she want to live there but her father and some of her friends said she said so. I know most of the smoking and drinking she has done has been over their with her dads girlfriends niece who is staying with them, well now she is staying with her aunt. This problem started last summer cause of this girl and her dads girlfriend, then the girl went back to Austin and now is back for the summer. I have no physical proof on this only what I have seen and others including my daughter has told me.
He has always been about the child support trying to get it reduced, not paying or paying late. He’s behind now. I waived $25,000 back child support to keep my kids home they grew up in (another long story of how he used his attorney friend and won on something very wrong). What are the laws can he get custody of her immediately? The attorney general office said it takes 6 months before changes can be made unless he get's an attorney which he has a friend who he trades out with that is an attorney and I'm sure they are already working on it. I can not afford an attorney. How soon can the court orders be changed where he has custody of her? I know in time my daughter will get over being mad at me and get tired of what they do to her over there but I'm afraid once he changes the orders he will make it even harder on her to come home he has a way of quilting & manipulating her.
Sorry so long can anyone help me or give me advice..
Thanks, LostParent Darla:confused:
Sorry so long, PLEASE READ I NEED ADVICE. :(:confused:
I'm 40yrs old live in Texas. I have been a single parent since June 2003 and divorced Nov 2005 due to his cheating and in the end he hit me. I have 2 kids’ girl-15 and boy-11. My X has a girlfriend he has been with since July 2003 and they have a 3 yr old son together.
My question/problem is my daughter 15 has taken a turn for the worse she failed 4 classes and is now in summer school. In addition I found 3 cigs in her room plus there is more, I blew up handled it all wrong. I then took away all her privileges; she was home for 4 days went to stay w/her dad for 2 weeks and has been gone for a month. Will not speak to me and is telling everyone she is moving in w/her dad. It had been almost 3 weeks and her dad is already telling me we need to change the court orders. He tells me she wants to live their & has for a long time, this is news to me since she and his girlfriend do not get along most of the time. She tells me and her friends how much she hates her step-mom and wishes she would leave. They use her for cleaning, cooking, laundry and babysitting cause he races and they are always drinking if not at home then at the bar. She always has that baby. They fight non-stop at time physical. She is very unstable and does not have custody of her other 2 boys one lives with his dad and the other with his dad's grandparents. They are always gone leaving our 2 kids alone watching their 1/2 brother. I have no proof on this only what my kids and other people have told me that and when I have called my X in the evenings he has had our kids he's normally at a bar and I can tell he's been drinking. In addition to this there is a boy who lives next door to her dad she is now dating (I found out through her friends). They are at each others houses non stop and her dad and girlfriend are always gone, I’m afraid of what’s going to end up happening.
I know with time she will think more clearly she is mad at me right now for grounding her, when she went to her dad's they did nothing and have been making life sweet for her so she will stay. She has not told me herself she want to live there but her father and some of her friends said she said so. I know most of the smoking and drinking she has done has been over their with her dads girlfriends niece who is staying with them, well now she is staying with her aunt. This problem started last summer cause of this girl and her dads girlfriend, then the girl went back to Austin and now is back for the summer. I have no physical proof on this only what I have seen and others including my daughter has told me.
He has always been about the child support trying to get it reduced, not paying or paying late. He’s behind now. I waived $25,000 back child support to keep my kids home they grew up in (another long story of how he used his attorney friend and won on something very wrong). What are the laws can he get custody of her immediately? The attorney general office said it takes 6 months before changes can be made unless he get's an attorney which he has a friend who he trades out with that is an attorney and I'm sure they are already working on it. I can not afford an attorney. How soon can the court orders be changed where he has custody of her? I know in time my daughter will get over being mad at me and get tired of what they do to her over there but I'm afraid once he changes the orders he will make it even harder on her to come home he has a way of quilting & manipulating her.
Sorry so long can anyone help me or give me advice..
Thanks, LostParent Darla:confused:
