My ex refuses to let me see my son. We have a visitation order from a couple years ago that was never updated. I have been out of work for almost a year so I have not had any income to pay my child support and I have back child support that she lied to get but regardless, she refuses to let me see my son and won't even let me speak to him. If I go back to court I am afraid that instead of hearing me out that the judge will blow me off because of the back child support. I know they are not related but the judicial system isn't perfect. Any suggestions?

Ok so I have an update my ex called yesterday and told me that I was dead to my son. I asked her to speak with him and to see him, she refused. She added further that if I were to contact her again that she would call the police on me. Seeing as she called yesterday from a restricted number I have no other point of contact than her work E-mail I do not want to get her in trouble but I want to see my son. I have made mistakes in the past and I want to repair the damage I have done. Seeing as she is going the route she is are there any suggestions positive or negative?

Ok so I have an update my ex called yesterday and told me that I was dead to my son. I asked her to speak with him and to see him, she refused. She added further that if I were to contact her again that she would call the police on me. Seeing as she called yesterday from a restricted number I have no other point of contact than her work E-mail I do not want to get her in trouble but I want to see my son. I have made mistakes in the past and I want to repair the damage I have done. Seeing as she is going the route she is are there any suggestions positive or negative?

Is the state CSE agency involved in your case?
If they are, contact them to make arrangements to begin paying CS with an additional payment toward the arrears.

Then, file in court for contempt of the visitation order. Usually when contempt is filed you should be able to request make-up visits. As long as you are making a good faith effort to pay CS, you have every legal right to have your visitation order enforced.

Child Support and Visitation Rights are not related. However, if you haven't been paying, a judge is likely to look at that and focus on that rather than the matter of visitation. My suggestion (you said you were unemployed for a year, I think) is get a job if you haven't already. Even a lower paying job that is beneath your ability would help to show effort to the courts that you want to pay your CS and continue looking for a higher paying job. As Xena said, contact CSE and make arrangements to pay the current and some toward the arrears. Then file in the court a contempt charge to force your ex to abide by visitation. She can't deny you visits based on your failure to pay CS, but you need to get that started before you go before a judge in order to show you are making an effort.

My advice...do NOT contact her directly again. If she has asked you not to, she can probably get a judge to sign a protection order or something and that wouldn't look good on your record. I know because my husband's ex is still trying to get the protection order's continued that she started three years ago....even though he hasn't made any effort since that time to contact her at all. All communication between them goes through me or his mother. He can't get anyone to help him or even look at anything when they see that on file. And eventhough he didn't do anything, he's branded now. Just an FYI to try to help you out.