My daughter's father (J) and I are going through a custody battle right now and we are at the point where we need to figure out parenting time. I would like to have sole custody and for him to have supervised visits only.

The story behind why is very long. The short version is he (J) got a 15 year old girl (S) pregnant, who lived with us while we were together since she was young. She referred to my ex and I as her aunt/uncle and sometimes her parents, and my daughter thought of her as a sister. She (S) is now 17 and they got married when she was 16, in Maryland and have another child on the way.

The two are back in Oregon now and we all were living in Oregon when this whole thing started.

So, I believe that my daughter's father is a danger to her, especially since the child he had sexual relations with he saw as his own. What will happen when my daughter becomes a teenager? I fear that he will do the unthinkable. Is it wrong of me to think this?

My questions are (other than that one):

1. Can I ask the court to make him (J) take a paternity test to prove the child is his?
2. If I can, how do I do that?
3. If it is proven that he did get a 15 year old pregnant, is that enough to get sole custody and him to only have supervised visits?

Thank you in advance for your help.

1. Can I ask the court to make him (J) take a paternity test to prove the child is his?

No
2. If I can, how do I do that?
You cant your an uninvolved party
3. If it is proven that he did get a 15 year old pregnant, is that enough to get sole custody and him to only have supervised visits?

You can try but these could be said to be unrelated.

Ok, so there is no way to protect my daughter from him? He is a child molester and the proof is in the first child he had with the 15 years old. He looks exactly like him. I just find it hard to believe that there is nothing I can do to keep him from turning his attention to our daughter.

Did this 15 year old's parents do anything about it when they found out?

Unless he was convicted of molestation, that will not amount to much in front of the court.

As for your daughter, I totally understand how upset you are. If your daughter is old enough to understand, stress to her that you will always listen to her no matter who or what it's about.

I wish I had more answers for you.

Well, our daughter is only 6 and when she comes home from her dad's house she tells me everything that happened so I do believe she would say something. And unfortunately, she is too young to understand what is happening.

As for the 15 year old's parents, her father is in jail for murder and her mother wants nothing to do with her. And that is why she was living with us to begin with. Her mom has always had legal custody of her and could care less what happened. I just wish I had became her legal guardian so that none of this would have happened.

Thank you guys for your help.

So another words this girls' mother knew her daughter had been molested, gotten pregnant and she signed for her to marry? Great mom there!

Uh, OP? Did YOU report the rape to the authorities? Nowhere does the law prohibit ANYONE from reporting a crime.

Mommy is right by reporting the crime there will be a record. That record can be used to help protect your child. Its the evidence you need

So another words this girls' mother knew her daughter had been molested, gotten pregnant and she signed for her to marry? Great mom there!

There were married in Maryland when she turned 16 and I read that in Maryland a minor, ages 16-18, can get married without parental permission if there is a child/pregnancy involved. If this is what they did, how can any judge in their right mind allow a 27 year to marry a 16 year old?!?!

And her mother did know and actually called the police when she found out but not to protect her child but to get even with the guy, he owed her money or something. What ended up happening is child services told me to not allow our daughter to talk or see her father till the finished their investigation. Well, they also told the 15 year old that if she left the state, then the case would be dropped and (J) would be able to see his daughter again. So, she left and the case was dropped. I know, I don't get it either.

Can she ask the local child services dept to investigate - consult with the child services in Maryland who was previously investigating? The safety of the new baby, plus her own daughter is in question here... ????

Amy

If an abuse report is made there will be an investigation