My X and I have a 5 month old son. We were never married. It has been established that I am the father. We are under temp. orders where my parenting time is Sat & Sun 4 hrs each and all day Mon & Wed. We go back to court in May to establish perm. orders. My X and I are getting along right now and although she hasn't given me any extra time with him without her we have been spending a few hours extra a week with him as parents together. We go to the doctors appts together, take him for walks and when he started eating cereal we decided to do it together for the first time. Not sure what to do about this. I do want more time with him and I know it would be better if I can do it by myself but was wondering since I am with him and establishing good quality time with him would this be better than no time at all when the courts look at it? It really doesn't bother me to be with my X and if this is the only choice I have to spend more time with him then I am willing to do it. Some people are saying it does matter if she is there and some say it doesn't.

My X and I have a 5 month old son. We were never married. It has been established that I am the father. We are under temp. orders where my parenting time is Sat & Sun 4 hrs each and all day Mon & Wed. We go back to court in May to establish perm. orders. My X and I are getting along right now and although she hasn't given me any extra time with him without her we have been spending a few hours extra a week with him as parents together. We go to the doctors appts together, take him for walks and when he started eating cereal we decided to do it together for the first time. Not sure what to do about this. I do want more time with him and I know it would be better if I can do it by myself but was wondering since I am with him and establishing good quality time with him would this be better than no time at all when the courts look at it? It really doesn't bother me to be with my X and if this is the only choice I have to spend more time with him then I am willing to do it. Some people are saying it does matter if she is there and some say it doesn't.

If the court looks at it at all, it will be good because you both will be showing the court that you are willing to co-parent. Of course you should still ask for the max. amount of court ordered time, that way you know that you'll have that much time. Then if she still wants to allow extra, it's a bonus for you.

I do get my co time. The reason I am trying to get more time with him is because when we do start overnights I want the transition to go smooth. I don't want him to feel a lot of stress and anxiety. I feel right now the more time I spend with him (regardless what the courts see it as) it will benefit us as a family.

I do get my co time. The reason I am trying to get more time with him is because when we do start overnights I want the transition to go smooth. I don't want him to feel a lot of stress and anxiety. I feel right now the more time I spend with him (regardless what the courts see it as) it will benefit us as a family.

You are very correct. You and your ex are good parents because you are willing to put aside your differences for your child's sake. I hope that the Judge sees that and orders the max just to be safe. Please keep us up to date on how things are going. Personally, I think that everything will work out okay.