im 15 and i know i wont be able to pay for my kid and give it the amount of attention it deserves and there is this lady who was willing to adopt me and my kid but some things have come up but i would still like to sign over custody of my child to her because i know she would take care of it better than i ever could. so how would i go about doing that??:confused:

im 15 and i know i wont be able to pay for my kid and give it the amount of attention it deserves and there is this lady who was willing to adopt me and my kid but some things have come up but i would still like to sign over custody of my child to her because i know she would take care of it better than i ever could. so how would i go about doing that??:confused:

Once the baby is born, you will need to establish paternity. Once that is done, Daddy of the baby will have to consent to the adoption. He will have just as much say in this matter as you will.

Your 15 how old is Father?

hes 18 and my dad put a restraining order against him but tried pressing charges but they fell through so thus the restraining order. now he says he wants nothing to do with me so what i would have to contact him somehow then??

hes 18 and my dad put a restraining order against him but tried pressing charges but they fell through so thus the restraining order. now he says he wants nothing to do with me so what i would have to contact him somehow then??

Well, YOU don't have to contact him personally. However, when you try to give the child in adoption (btw, I am proud of you for making such a difficult decision and doing what is best for your baby), in order for the adoption to be legal, paternity will have to be established.

You will need to reveal the name of the father and paternity will have to be established, either by his signing a vountary affidavit of paternity or via DNA testing (which would most likely have to go through court).

Don't freak out. This issue has been handled many, many times before and the atty (if you are doing a private adoption) or the placement agency will know what to do.

You need to be prepared that the father may not consent and will have the right to sue for custody of the child.

ok my is making me mad and wont let the button for starting a new thread appear so anyways to reverse a restraining order do you have to go back to the same courthouse?? or can you go to any courthouse??

ok my is making me mad and wont let the button for starting a new thread appear so anyways to reverse a restraining order do you have to go back to the same courthouse?? or can you go to any courthouse??

You can't vacate the restraining order. You may be able to request that the RO be amended to allow contact regarding the child. MAYBE!

The restraining order was taken out by your father.

Only he can get it recinded.

:D You sound like a smart girl!

I also live in Arizona and my oldest son is adopted. We met his mother through his grandmother so we were able to do a private adoption. Now that was a long time ago so some of the rules could have changed but this was the basic process.

We hired a lawyer that we found out later that we did not need. In Arizona, if you have consent of both biological parents the county attorney will file all of the paperwork for free. - You would need the baby's father to sign the papers. If he refuses or disapperars the adopting parents will have to "search" for him and if after 6 months he does not come forward his rights will be revoked. It would be easier if he would just sign the papers. Once the papers are drawn up they can be delived via process server so you won't have to see him at all. You and the father can sign the papers 3 days after the baby is born. Once you sign these papers you cannot change your mind.

The adopting parents will have to complete a home study. Any adoption agency in Arizona can do this for you. Building Arizona Families, AASK, Catholic Social Services or a private case worker are a few options. You can do a web search to find more options.

Once the home study is complete the adopting parents will get a court date. Once the judge signs the paperwork the baby will get a new birth certificate with the adopting parents names as the parents.

The adoption agency will also be able to offer you some counseling during the process. It will be very hard but you are making the right choice for your baby and for you. I know it looks like fun to have a baby but it is hard work and very expensive.

You will not have to pay for anything during the adoption process. The adopting parents will pay for everything. If it does not work out that the lady you are talking about can take the baby the agency will have a bunch of other families that will treat your baby like an angel. Many of the families will let you be a part of the baby's life through pictures, birthday parties, etc.

Let me know if you have any other questions. I will be glad to help.

Zofia I respect your right to post and make suggestion I just feel that seeking business on a thread may be violation of terms of service. You might resort to use of PM to solicit business

Thanks for the heads up Panther. I figured the young girl might need help and was not planning on charging her. I will check to make sure whether offering legal help is permitted or not.

I would suggest using the PM function for that. Even if you have no intent to charge others may see it and attempt same with other intent.

Zofia, it is absolutely prohibited to solicit clients, even on a pro bono basis, on these boards. I am deleting any such offers. You are welcome to post but not to invite posters to contact you.

I have allowed other attorneys to include a link to their website in their signature as long as it is done without comment.