Hi! I have two children that are permently placed in there grandparents care. I am unhappy my relationship with those children. I don't get along with there grandparents because there are there dads parents. Can I give up my rights even if the father doesn't. It will make my life horriable if i can't. Than I will go after the father. They have out my care for three years. :confused: :mad: :(

Hi! I have two children that are permently placed in there grandparents care. I am unhappy my relationship with those children. I don't get along with there grandparents because there are there dads parents. Can I give up my rights even if the father doesn't. It will make my life horriable if i can't. Than I will go after the father. They have out my care for three years. :confused: :mad: :(

You want to give up your rights to the children because you don't get along with their guardians? What do you mean by this comment: "Than I will go after the father"...?

You don't have to have contact with the children or the grandparents...but if there is a child support order YOU MUST OBEY IT.

Hope I have made you life a little "less horrible" by imparting the sad fact that you don't HAVE to have contact with your children....Have a good life now. :mad:

First of all theese are your children why are you night fighting for them? How can you not love your kids, you made them! You can't just terminate your rights... Why do you not have your OWN kids?

All I can say is 'wow'.

Well, at least we know that the KIDS aren't living a 'horrible' life. They are with someone that actaully recognizes the fact that they are PEOPLE WITH FEELINGS, not just some object whose sole purpose is to make your life less 'horrible'.

And this, folks, shows that just because a person can physically reproduce, it doesn't mean a person SHOULD.

The answer to your question is NO. You have a legal obligation to at least contribute to their financial support.

Please rethink what you want to do. Although your children may have Grandparents who love them, what do you think it will do to them to know that not only did their parent not care about them but wanted to Legally get rid of them? That can mess up a child for life!

Times change, people change. Dont make a decision now that will impact you for life and your kids too. Please reconsider.

My situation isnt quite the same, but having a parent who doesnt care is hell for a child. I'm 52 and it still haunts me.

Just to play the devils advocate, it not a big shocker or so HORRIBLE when a father gives his rights up because he doesn't want to be responsible. Just because she's a mother makes it a :eek: ?

Honestly I see as horriable both ways. I am a Father and was appalled on how little a fight my ex put up and I got custody of our three children. For me its no different

Just to play the devils advocate, it not a big shocker or so HORRIBLE when a father gives his rights up because he doesn't want to be responsible. Just because she's a mother makes it a :eek: ?

I have the same reaction no matter what parent wants to sell their children for the price of a cs payment...I always find it disgusting!

Just to play the devils advocate, it not a big shocker or so HORRIBLE when a father gives his rights up because he doesn't want to be responsible. Just because she's a mother makes it a :eek: ?

Nope, selling off your kids is horrible no matter if you have indoor or outdoor plumbing.

I didn't see anywhere that this person wants to terminate rights because of child support. That is an assumption everyone seems to have made. Is it really so hard to believe that she may have other reasons? I have a friend who has a child that she has not seen in more than 4 years. The reason for her lack of contact was due to several reasons, some beyond her control. She recently requested and was granted termination of her parental rights. She requested this because the child's father had remarried and his new wife wanted to adopt thier child. Her lack of contact has made it that this child didn't even know it was her mother the last time they saw each other. For three years, the new wife has been "mom". I don't see any reason not to request it if that is what someone feels is what thier situation calls for. Those of you who have jumped all over this poster have no idea what her situation is, why she has not had contact, why she does not have custody, perhaps it would be in the best interests of the children involved if she terminates her rights. Perhaps that would open the door to the grandparents in the event they wanted to adopt or assume legal custody of these children. If you have never had your child/children taken from you and kept from you for an extended period of time you have no idea what that might feel like or how you would react in that particular situation. I'll step off my soapbox now...sorry about that, I just have had some similar situations occur and wanted to offer my support for the OP.

If a parent truly acts in the child's best interest to terminate his or her parental rights (NOT because his or her life will be horrible...and that is a direct quote from the OP) then that is a gift to the child. TPR out of love and wanting the best for a child is completely different than what this OP is wanting to do.

Further, I can guarantee you that even if the OP didn't state it directly, at least a small part of this is to get out of paying support for the children that were removed from her care.

How is it the CHILDREN'S fault that this OP can't get along with the children's legal guardian, if for no other reason to facilitate a relationship WITH the children?

In answer to your question of how do I think I would act or do if my children had been removed from my care? ANYTHING and EVERYTHING I could do to at least remain part of my child's life...even swallowing my pride and biting my tongue to keep in contact with them.

In the case of your friend, it sounds like she allowed the TPR and adoption out of love and concern for the well being of the child. This OP? Nowhere close.