I am a 33 year old single mother of a 5 year old boy. I allow my son and his father to be together every Friday night. Every Friday he calls (from a blocked number and asks if he can pick my son up to spend the night. I always agree, never refused him to see his son. Even with a blocked number.

This year he asked me if he could take him for Christmas to Louisiana and I allowed him to take my son. However this is the problem. This man has no respect for me as the mother of our child. He blocks his phone number and has not called me to even let me know they made it ok. It's been since Monday, and I still have not heard from them.

The only contact I have that is close to him is his mother in Chicago (my son's grandmother) I called her yesterday and they called her. But I didnt get a phone call. I am his mother. I should be the one they call to let me know they are ok.

I know in GA the non-custodial parent has no rights if the parents were never married. But I never refused him to see and spend time with his son. But the blantant disregard for me as the mother is getting ridiculous.

Do I need to tell him to now go through the court system. That way he will have to provide a number and address when he takes his son. I know where he lives but not because he told me, I had to search on the internet. But why he blocks his number is beyond me.

I am being cooperative and it seems like he doesnt want to try to establish a parental partnership with me.

Please help

if visitaion has not been done through the court I would tell him if he now wants to see him to file for visitation by the courts because he can not provide a number for you so you can call and see how things are going.

Not having a cour torder work sin your fgavor for now. forbid him to see child without providing proper contact info for you. He can argue all he wants but withuot a court order he can do little. The "you" not him seek court order for visitation

Here is a letter I will hand deliver to him when he gets back:

Dear :

I am writing regarding your failure to give me your personal contact information. I have asked you to provide me with your telephone number on several occasions. I need this information so that you can be contacted in the event of an emergency regarding Aiden.

Also, I have asked that you call me when taking Aiden on out-of-town trips, so that I can rest assured that he gets there safely and is doing fine. I do not wish to contact you for any other outside purposes.

You have ignored and refused my repeated requests for this information. I believe my requests are reasonable. Please provide me with your telephone number(s) within one week of receiving this letter.

It is important that Aiden is able to spend time with you, but I have to also consider his safety and well-being. If you refuse to give me the appropriate information, I will have no other choice but to contact my attorney to pursue legal action to get the court to compel you to provide this information and coordinate your visitation activities. I would like to avoid this step if at all possible.

Excellent. You wrote this letter with no real anger or emotion. It was exactly what it should be a demand for the informatrion you require for protection of your child. I applaud your efforts as many parents come here filled with anger and its more about hurting the other parent than the child's needs. You did very well and other posters here should take note of your reasonable adult approach

i am not happy to be having to make these request to him. It's just so darn simple how hard is it to contact me to say "Hey we made it and here is aiden to say hello to you"

God forbid something was to happen to my son, and I had no way of contacting his dad to let him know. or even if I died how would he know. Just silly to me.

Do not let the child go again without these numbers. Without an exact address of where the boy will be and without knowing exactly what activities they plan on doing.

Dad sounds a bit controlling... time to stop that train.

If there is no court order for visitation, I would change the 2nd-to-last sentence to "If you refuse to give me the appropriate information, I will have no other choice but to discontinue allowing you to take Aiden for one-on-one parenting time." The lack of a court order gives you the upper hand - don't point him in a direction that will make things more complicated for you.

I agree that is a better way to end that letter. I appreciate your help.