it has been awhile since my last post ...


I am not sure if I even have the right category , if not ,please let me know which to post this in ....
I have a complicated question and I am not sure where to start , after being divorced for a few years yet still living in the same town as dad ,,I met and eventually remarried someone else, the only difference is that he is French ,,as in Born and raised and never left France , my ex completely freaked out ,left town for one 200 miles away taking 2 of our children (both early teens)with him without my knowledge - they were taken from a sleepover where the parent had no idea anything was wrong - I was left with the 5 year old . Went to court in Dec The judge gave the 5 year old to me and the older 2 decided to stay with dad , but are free to go either way ,no child support on either side,
the reason we had to go back to court was that my ex wanted to prevent me from moving to France with my now husband , Only now I may not only not go back to France with my husband but I am also not allowed to leave the state of Texas ,, the sudden immigration has been a nightmare , he left a $24 an hour job to come here and hope to get his work permit and green card within a year (which we have already applied for ) my "now husband" is financially responsible for my daughter and I ,, we all really want to go back to France ,where is Job is and a big family ,,

it s VERY hard like this ,,, is it possible??

My ex is hopng we finally become so broke that we have to give up the 5 year old ,, I am not giving up , but feel like a compromise could be made somewhere ,,ie:more visitation , all summer ,every Christmas etc...

my ex was rarely involved with his children before this.. overnght he is "Mr.Dad" ,,,,,I am just wondering also what sort of lawyer should I consult ,, I am getting conflictiing information on this and if we will ever be able to go back ....


and now a year later ...
We never saw my ex husband again ,, we showed up twice for visitation pickup and he never showed up ,

he does NOT let me speak to my teenagers and I dont know where they live, the lasttime I spoke to him last summer he was blackmailing me to keep me from going to an attorney.
I am tired of being afraid.
My current husband DID get his green card has an excellent job and says we need to get a good lawyer now.
I want her to have her passport so we may at least visit my husbands family in France and travel other places.

How do I put this to my attorney effectively.

He is not required to pay any support, and uses the custody agreement as a remote control.

I want full custody,,My husband wants to adopt her ,but I am afraid that is too much for now.
I would be happy for travel permission from a court , first then more later
I dont know what to say to the attorney , I am going next week..

it has been awhile since my last post ...





and now a year later ...
We never saw my ex husband again ,, we showed up twice for visitation pickup and he never showed up ,

he does NOT let me speak to my teenagers and I dont know where they live, the lasttime I spoke to him last summer he was blackmailing me to keep me from going to an attorney.
I am tired of being afraid.
My current husband DID get his green card has an excellent job and says we need to get a good lawyer now.
I want her to have her passport so we may at least visit my husbands family in France and travel other places.

How do I put this to my attorney effectively.

He is not required to pay any support, and uses the custody agreement as a remote control.

I want full custody,,My husband wants to adopt her ,but I am afraid that is too much for now.
I would be happy for travel permission from a court , first then more later
I dont know what to say to the attorney , I am going next week..

Try witing down everything you feel should be pointed out. After you've done that, re-write it, editing down to the very basics. Take that with you when you meet with your attorney. It helps alot.
One attorney that I consulted with saw that I had a list of questions written out, he asked if he could see the list, and he answered each one in order.

Just remember, attorney's are very busy and really like to have thier clients be straight to the point in thier questions.

Thanks for thre reply ,,, I know my situation there is not a whole lot to say ,, I was thinking about making a list like this and now I know it is the best thing to do ,, it is really a short one,,
This guy is just not easy to deal with ,, a restraining order or other paper work is hard to come by with him because he uses the phone as a weapon, instead of causing problems in person .

I am very discouraged at this point and more than afraid , but I understand that is what he wants ,, it is his last means of control and I realize it is up to me to stop it ,,

One thing I forgot ,, I am not sure if i should even mention to this lawyer,,
my ex husbands two siblngs are fledgling attorneys ,, one may have not passed the bar yet ,, both have given him the passwords to their respective firms databases .. one is the Harris County District attorneys office ,, which he uses to try to scare me by constantly looking to see if I have so much as a traffic ticket ... it this legal ?

He uses this to make me afraid ,, should I tell someone about this??