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cheryl2007
12-10-2007, 12:56 PM
My dad has never paid the ordered support for me which is now 31 years old.He has 6 other children from 2 other marriages,that he has lived with and has and is still paying for.I've on occasion asked him for help with nothing.He has been in prison for most of life but there are times he has been out and provided for all the others and still sends them money.I am disabled due to a car accident and needed his help but still nothing.I just want to know if there is anyway I could go and get the money he owes me.I know he has it in the bank,he got a couple of hundred thousand dollars last year from my grandfathers passing.And its not that I'm money hungry or greedy but he has never took care of me.

MomofBoys
12-10-2007, 01:51 PM
I understand your frustration, but your father does not owe you money. He owes your mother/legal guardian money. And he only owes it if it was a court ordred support order.

Your mother can pursue a case to collect her court ordered child support, but legally speaking, you are not entitled to that money. Further, he is not obligated to support his adult children, so you cannot ask him for money now.

cheryl2007
12-11-2007, 08:51 AM
thanks for your reply but do you know what its like to be the first born and watch your father keep having kids with other people and not do anything for you?My brother had his dad that lived with us and he treated me wrong because I wasn't his and my dad did nothing.You can say awe poor me but I do not feel sorry for myself,I've been disabled for 11 years and have provided a good home for my 2 children,1 without his fathers help.I JUST THINK PARENTS SHOULD PAY FOR THEIR KIDS!My dad did not. As for it being for my mom.I started working when I was 14,moved out and was married at 18.Besides she is the one who told me to write and ask because she wants his money I don't!

mom26
12-11-2007, 09:00 AM
So have you mom file with the court to see about getting the back child support paid up...

That is if there was a court order for support...

MomofBoys
12-11-2007, 09:03 AM
My response had only to do with your LEGAL question. The details about what a jerk your Dad is have no bearing on the fact that he, legally, owes you nothing.

I sympathize with your situation, and I agree with you morally, that yes, your Dad shold have supported you. I disagree that he should give you money NOW, as you are an adult. But yes, he should pay your mom what he owes.

If your Mom wants the child support order enforced, tell her to hire an attorney and file for it. But you cannot, as you are not entitiled to his money.

xena
12-11-2007, 03:08 PM
Is the existing court order in Arkansas?
If so, get a copy of the order and get a consult with an attorney. In Arkansas, adult children do have legal standing to sue to enforce CS orders.

However, if the order is in any other state, the laws do not allow adult children to enforce orders.

cheryl2007
12-13-2007, 11:56 AM
as I said before I don't want his money and yes there was support ordered,I'm not being greedy or wanting something that was never ordered to start with.But my mom thought she could it get it.Thanks for your help.

mommyof4
12-14-2007, 11:40 AM
As has been stated, your MOTHER can get it. That was the whole point of the responses you recieved.

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