I was born and raised in Cincinnati, When I was 18 I married My Son's father, He was very abusive and marriage only lasted about 2 yrs During this time my parents we're given custody of my son. Who is now 13 years old and has recently (4 months ago) moved in with me and my new husband. I have have always been apart of my son's life, unlike his father who actually has had no contact or never paid any support. The move was from Cincinnati to Washington where we live. We would like to go about having the custody that was given to my parents given back to me. My question is, what advice if any can others shed on this situation. Thanks so much in advance,

Angel

I was born and raised in Cincinnati, When I was 18 I married My Son's father, He was very abusive and marriage only lasted about 2 yrs During this time my parents we're given custody of my son. Who is now 13 years old and has recently (4 months ago) moved in with me and my new husband. I have have always been apart of my son's life, unlike his father who actually has had no contact or never paid any support. The move was from Cincinnati to Washington where we live. We would like to go about having the custody that was given to my parents given back to me. My question is, what advice if any can others shed on this situation. Thanks so much in advance,

Angel

How did your parents get custody in the first place?

As I said I was young, and at the time kinda on the run from my husband. I asked my parents to take my son because I didn't want him to be in the unstable situation I was kinda forced into. Living in an battered womans shelter and all it was pretty much a bad situation all the way around at time so I did what I thought was best for him. My parents are completely ok with my having him back it's not like it would be a fight and my ex is no-where to be found at this point he actually agreed to the change in custody and signed the papers back when it happend 12 yrs ago. What concerns me mostly is the fact that originally the change of custody took place in Cincinnati, and I'm wondering if I'll have a problem filing for custody in a new state, or will I have to do all in Ohio?

Eventually what we want to do is that my son wants my current husband to adopt him. But first I know I'll need to get the custody reversed before we can change that.

Thanks for your reply,
Angel

Well I'm glad to see your life is back together but why did you wait so long to get him back?

I just realized a typo which changes the whole story from the way it actually is and gives the wrong impression

this:
has recently (4 months ago) moved in with me and my new husband

Should actually read

has recently (4 months ago) moved with me and my new husband

Sorry for that. Now Onto my reply....

As I said I've always been in my son's life, I lived with my folks for quite some time and it was always like he had 3 parents instead of one, and when I moved out of my folks house, My son came with me. We have always been together, I never disassociated myself from him in anyway. My parents were there to support me (emotionally speaking) It's only been recently that I moved away from Ohio and He came with me of course. Now He wants my current husband to adopt him and since we never really bothered with the paperwork before, simply because there really was no need to, I've enrolled him in schools and taken him to the doctors and have been his parent in every way possible. Nobody ever questions whether mom actually has custody it's always just assumed I've never been asked to show custody papers to anyone, and his father has never made any attempts to contact him, and has never made any trouble for me since the divorce 12 years ago. I mean really it's just been a technicality. The reason it was done in the first place was mostly to keep him from my ex-husband. The only reason I'm actually attempting to change it now, is so that my husband can adopt him, which will be the next step. As I said previously, my biggest concern is will I be able to file the custody paperwork here in Washington, or will I have go to Ohio to do it because that's where the change in custody originally took place.

So to answer your question I didn't "wait to get him back" He's always been with me. The custody thing was merely a piece of paper that existed but in our lives didn't actually effect anything. If anything in 2 instances it was actually good thing, like one time my parents took him, and my younger sisters who were about 13 or 14 at the time to the zoo (I was working) and my sister wanted to take him down a tunnel slide on her lap at the picnic area. The poor little guy put his leg up and they went crooked and he got a fracture, because my parent's technically had custody they were able to immediately give treatment consent at the hospital. The other time was when he was a fearless 8 year old who thought he could "fly off" the porch like superman..lmao. kids and their crazy Ideas, and well long story short I was working and he needed stitches in his knee. But now things have changed, so I need to go ahead change the custody paperwork.