There is some sort of law that got put into my divorce agreement that says that if I need a sitter for more than 3 hours then I have to give my ex the right to watch our son. I need to know if there is some sort of time period to when my ex has to answer me to whether or not he can watch him. I asked him on Friday if he could watch him on Wednesday since there is no school. And my ex says "I won't know until Tuesday night." To me that should mean no. Why should I have to wait til the night before to come up with another sitter. I think he should be able to tell me atleast by the next day if he can watch him. Not 4 days later?

There is some sort of law that got put into my divorce agreement that says that if I need a sitter for more than 3 hours then I have to give my ex the right to watch our son. I need to know if there is some sort of time period to when my ex has to answer me to whether or not he can watch him. I asked him on Friday if he could watch him on Wednesday since there is no school. And my ex says "I won't know until Tuesday night." To me that should mean no. Why should I have to wait til the night before to come up with another sitter. I think he should be able to tell me atleast by the next day if he can watch him. Not 4 days later?

NOpe. There is no law that says when he has to tell you. Nor is there a law dictating ROFR in Ohio. However it is common and if it is in your agreement and signed by a judge then it is a court order. He didn't say know. He said he would know Tuesday night. You can think whatever you want. But you should always have a secondary plan in case dad can't.

You should go ahead and book the sitter as if you might need one. Then, if Dad is able to spend the time with the kiddo, you can cancel.

It beats the tar out of NOT booking someone and then having to find child care at the last minute because you were waiting on Dad.

No harm, no foul.

There is some sort of law that got put into my divorce agreement that says that if I need a sitter for more than 3 hours then I have to give my ex the right to watch our son. I need to know if there is some sort of time period to when my ex has to answer me to whether or not he can watch him. I asked him on Friday if he could watch him on Wednesday since there is no school. And my ex says "I won't know until Tuesday night." To me that should mean no. Why should I have to wait til the night before to come up with another sitter. I think he should be able to tell me atleast by the next day if he can watch him. Not 4 days later?

You know, I am reading thru all of these divorce custody cases, also my son is separated from his spouse, has 2 boys. What is wrong with all you people, its all about me, what about the kids, split marriage, lose their homes, but its still about mom and dad! Move on! Quit getting even!!!!!

Lil..... I don't think the OP is trying to jerk her ex or her child around. She's just trying to make sure her son is taken care of on his day off school and she is following her custody agreement while doing so. Kudos to her.

I don't think it was too much to ask that she could have an answer as to whether or not his father could care for him some time before the night before the day in question.

She IS thinking about her son and his wellbeing. She IS including his father in their son's care and day to day needs.

Seeing as the day in question is now arrived, I hope she was able to have an answer to her request before last night.