I just need to know what the chances on having my ex-husband's rights terminated so my husband can adopt my 9 year daughter.

My ex-husband did not have contact from May 1998 until April 2000 with our daughter. He refused to sign the divorce papers and we finally divorced on September 2002 I got full legal custody of our daughter and he got visitation every other weekend. I then remarried in December 2004 and we moved to NC because my husband is in the military. I wrote my ex a letter 90 days before our move and he never objected to it until March 2007 and he took me to court and he got 2 weeks out of the summer. He did have her from June 19th until like July 3rd. Our daughter keeps telling me she does not want to see him anymore because they are mean to her. He refuses to keep a job to pay child support, and will not help pay the uncovered medical and dental expenses which it is court ordered he pays.

What are the chances I can have his rights terminated so my husband can adopt her?

You cannot take away a parents legal rights regardless of how bad a parent he/she is. He is visiting the child and where he might be "mean" he hasnt been abusive. Read through this site and you willsee over and over one parent trying to strip the parental rights of their Ex. It cannot be done unless the other parent is absent/abusive etc to child. Even then maybe not. If Bio Dad will willingly give up his parental rights thats a different story

He is also suppose to visit her on her 3 and 4 day weekends in NC along with him promising her he was going to write and email her every weekend. She has not heard from him since August 13th. My current husband and myself wanted him to sign his rights over. But we was still going to allow him and his family to call and write her anytime they wanted to.

If he is not willing to sign over his rights you cannot strip him of them.

As stated earlier, you can not strip him of his rights. He is paying support and visiting (granted it's at his convenience) the child. If there is no abuse going on, there is nothing that can be done.

I have 2 daughters from a previous marriage. He called every few months and visited every 6 months when married to his 3rd wife. He married again and decided he wanted them to live with him. Thank goodness they were old enough to decide on their own that he wasn't DADDY material.

My current husband has a very strong bond with the girls. He did the DADDY thing while their father moved on with his life. They turn to him before they do to me. He has no legal rights and it sometimes upsets him but he knows that he has thier love and respect and that is enough for him.

Just a tidbit of information, your current husband can get her on his Tricare without adopting. My girls have been on my husbands since we married.