FYI - I am the "reducing support in WA" girl down a couple of posts. I talked with child support worker, he says DO NOT reduce support, TELL A JUDGE what the ex is doing to you. So, got the forms from the court facilitator's office, am filing a motion, declaration, etc. and having him served with all docs. Question is, he is already due in court for contempt charges relating to the support, I called the prosecuting atty's office and asked if I could come in on same date, and present at same time...Sooo - do I have to summon him into court? technically he should already be there, also, the PA had already called me as ex wants support reduced down to an amount that would take over 8 years to pay off.

I didn't mind all the crap - I didn't like it, but I dealt with it, until he turned me over to the collection agency for his bill...I sat down and did the math, between what he owes me for arrears, the med. bills he didn't pay, the attorney's fees he hasn't paid, the kids' school he never paid......this divorce has cost me $40K, not to mention the hell he put the kids through - he cleaned out their bank accounts and hocked all their toys. Dang it, I'm pissed.

Okay, thanks for the rant, sometimes I just need to screw the head back on straight again.

you probably do need to follow your state and local rules for proper service, and the court probably already has that time earmarked for a certain issue, and not the others, although since you know exactly where he will be on a certain day and time, you could have him served right before or right after court

Summon him.

Have nothing to add except that you have a right to be ticked. He HOCKED THEIR TOYS????

Well, just go with the knowledge that he lost serious entrance to Heaven points. :D

Anywho, summon him. Even though he will already be in the building, this hearing is a different matter. A judge will normally only deal with the issue at hand....no "add ons". Good luck and stay strong.

FYI - I am the "reducing support in WA" girl down a couple of posts. I talked with child support worker, he says DO NOT reduce support, TELL A JUDGE what the ex is doing to you. So, got the forms from the court facilitator's office, am filing a motion, declaration, etc. and having him served with all docs. Question is, he is already due in court for contempt charges relating to the support, I called the prosecuting atty's office and asked if I could come in on same date, and present at same time...Sooo - do I have to summon him into court? technically he should already be there, also, the PA had already called me as ex wants support reduced down to an amount that would take over 8 years to pay off.

I didn't mind all the crap - I didn't like it, but I dealt with it, until he turned me over to the collection agency for his bill...I sat down and did the math, between what he owes me for arrears, the med. bills he didn't pay, the attorney's fees he hasn't paid, the kids' school he never paid......this divorce has cost me $40K, not to mention the hell he put the kids through - he cleaned out their bank accounts and hocked all their toys. Dang it, I'm pissed.

Okay, thanks for the rant, sometimes I just need to screw the head back on straight again.

without getting into deep detail, invest in the best attorney you can afford, if possible borrow from family , bank loan ect... In court as I'm sure you know it is very political. If you have a top attorney representing you , you will see things go in a more positive direction for you. I am sorry for what you and your children are going through, I wish you and your children the best.

without getting into deep detail, invest in the best attorney you can afford, if possible borrow from family , bank loan ect... In court as I'm sure you know it is very political. If you have a top attorney representing you , you will see things go in a more positive direction for you. I am sorry for what you and your children are going through, I wish you and your children the best.

Thank you so much, I can't borrow from my family, my dad has the money, but my ex already owes him 5K, so he won't let me borrow any. Bank loan is out of the question, he ruined my credit so bad I couldn't give a bank money, much less borrow any. So, unfortunately, I get to do this on my own. We just spent the last of our money to adopt the kids, thinking that that would solve the issues. I'm serious, in 4 years he has about broken me financially, between the vandalism to the house and cars and the lawyers, every time we turn around we have to focus time, money, and energy to get him off our backs while he gets a court appointed attorney and rides the harrassment free-way. The real issue is that I am dealing with an absolute control-physcho-scary-angry-freak, I am of the opinion that we have to move to another state as soon as possible. I don't think the harrassment is going to stop. I thought it would when he would move on with his life, but he doesn't seem to want to do so. Sometimes I think that he is why there is a hell.

I really appreciate the best wishes, and the advice, I figure if this doesn't work, I will just have to go another route, save for a year or so, and try again. Thanks!

[QUOTE=mommyof4;894016]Have nothing to add except that you have a right to be ticked. He HOCKED THEIR TOYS????

Yep, took all their clothes, locked them into a storage unit, with the contents of their bedrooms. Had to get a court order to get the key, he tried to demand that he be present when I went to clean out the unit, and that I be alone. AND told the kids that it was my fault that he did all of this, if I would have been a better mommy, he wouldn't have had to punish me.
on a good note, I stopped cursing a long time ago, there are not words foul enough. I have to keep on walking myself through the forgiveness process also, I keep losing the forgiveness, it seems to be a somewhat slippery substance.

Thanks, I lol over the heaven reference. !