I have been back and forth with the father of my four children in regards to child support. This individual is in the US Army currently working out of the Pentagon and has been ordered to pay over $1700.00 a month for our two youngest children due to the fact that by the time he finally responded to the requests for child support my older two were over 18 and therefore considered emancipated. This man has now turned around and hired a lawyer claiming that he cannot afford to pay this amount due to his bills, car and home payments. Meanwhile the person he married (in which has five children, three of which are not his, and he cheated on me with her) does not work and goes shopping all day long.

He has claimed to the court that I misrepresented myself by stating that I pay a certain amount in child care and that my children do not go to child care, which I had to turned around and once again provide the court with proof that I have been honest and upfront and that I was indeed paying child care. He is now trying to have the court, which he lives in Maryland give him the right to claim my children on his tax return. This man has made no attempt what so ever to be a father to my two younger children and has completely alienated my two older children because they made it known to him that the do not and never did like his wife and never will.

He is constantly telling people that we know lies about me in order to make himself look innocent (ie., that I was married that's why he married the other woman, my two young children are not his). All of which are not true. He in the meanwhile is married to her, but is cheating with women that he works with in the Pentagon.

My question is can't the court see that this is just another attempt by this man to not stand up to his responsibility? By the way of the two with this woman one is still questionable, but he did not ask for dna, but asked for dna for three of my four children. His parents and siblings do not even call to maintain contact with my three children. They talk to my oldest because he decided that he wanted to live in NY, so is lives with aunt rent free.

What are my chances of him being denied his request, due to all the games, plots, false allegations, and attempts to delay the finalization of this matter? Also just so that it is known, he is in arrears over $7000.00 and has yet to pay the required monthly support amount.

They will probably be able to see that. His parents and sibling shave no obligation to maintain contact with your children, and the parentage of one of his children with that other woman is none of your concern. One of my children doesn't look 1 bit like me or her father, yet I know that she came out of my body, and that there is no other person.

We cannot guess what the court system will do.

Honestly? Stop wallowing in all of the drama. The fact is that child support is a mathmatical calculation. He is the father of the children, he will pay according to state guidelines. The rest of it is just noise. Let it go.

I have been back and forth with the father of my four children in regards to child support. This individual is in the US Army currently working out of the Pentagon and has been ordered to pay over $1700.00 a month for our two youngest children due to the fact that by the time he finally responded to the requests for child support my older two were over 18 and therefore considered emancipated. This man has now turned around and hired a lawyer claiming that he cannot afford to pay this amount due to his bills, car and home payments. Meanwhile the person he married (in which has five children, three of which are not his, and he cheated on me with her) does not work and goes shopping all day long.

He has claimed to the court that I misrepresented myself by stating that I pay a certain amount in child care and that my children do not go to child care, which I had to turned around and once again provide the court with proof that I have been honest and upfront and that I was indeed paying child care. He is now trying to have the court, which he lives in Maryland give him the right to claim my children on his tax return. This man has made no attempt what so ever to be a father to my two younger children and has completely alienated my two older children because they made it known to him that the do not and never did like his wife and never will.

He is constantly telling people that we know lies about me in order to make himself look innocent (ie., that I was married that's why he married the other woman, my two young children are not his). All of which are not true. He in the meanwhile is married to her, but is cheating with women that he works with in the Pentagon.

My question is can't the court see that this is just another attempt by this man to not stand up to his responsibility? By the way of the two with this woman one is still questionable, but he did not ask for dna, but asked for dna for three of my four children. His parents and siblings do not even call to maintain contact with my three children. They talk to my oldest because he decided that he wanted to live in NY, so is lives with aunt rent free.

What are my chances of him being denied his request, due to all the games, plots, false allegations, and attempts to delay the finalization of this matter? Also just so that it is known, he is in arrears over $7000.00 and has yet to pay the required monthly support amount.

If the amount he's already ordered to pay is based on PROVEN incomes and within the state guidelines, his request for downward modification will most likely be denied.

However, IF he can prove that the amount is incorrect for any legal reason, or if he can prove a reson for a deviation from guidelines, he might be able to win.

With the amount he's been ordered to pay, apparently he's making at least $3,400.00 a month after taxes and allowable deductions. If everything was done correctly in setting the order, a Judge will most likely tell him to move into a cheaper home and cut his expenses.

He is now trying to have the court, which he lives in Maryland give him the right to claim my children on his tax return. This man has made no attempt what so ever to be a father to my two younger children and has completely alienated my two older children because they made it known to him that the do not and never did like his wife and never will.

I understand that he is in arrears and isn't current with his support. But if he was, it seems perfectly reasonable that he would be allowed to claim the kids on his taxes at least every other year. As far as that goes, it has nothing to do with his relationship with the kids but rather the financial support.