:mad: I have been married for 5 years, things were not great to begin with, but i moved with my H to TX and now to KY. We been having problems, but now they have become worse, we haven't spoken to each other in 2mos now, i tried to talk to him, but he accussed me of never loving him, calls me liar all the time, eventhough i have not done anything. He alwasy disrespects me, hides money from, never ask for my input, he said its his house since he pays the mortgage. I am not saying i am perfect, i have said things to him out of anger but i have never accussed him of anything. He says i don't want to have kids with him ofcourse i don't right due to our circumstances, we hardly talk to eachother, we are always screaming at eachother, don't trust eachother, he puts me down all the time, i don't want to bring any child in the enviornmnet i am in.

I accuses me of not wanting to do anything with him, we spends all the wknds with eachother, have taken several vacations. He wants me to take time at this time which i can't due to our busy season, he again is accussing me of lying to him, the bottom line is we both don't trust eachother. I am exhuasted by his verbal and emotional abuse.

He is pushing me to file for a divorce eventhough he is the one who has millions of issues with me. He also tells me when we go to the court he will ask for all my cell records, cc records, medical records, i don't know what that has to do with divorce. I have not cheated on him. He has also accussed me of marrying him for the money, eventhough when i got married to him he was unemployed and was unemployed for more than 2.5 years.

Please help as i can't decide whether to leave him or not. How does the KY law works???:mad: :confused:

You both need counseling. Preferably through your church. There is a great book that will help. His Needs, Her Needs

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6020_needs.html

It helps both to see what they can do to make things better. It does not focus on what you have done wrong. (it does show that)

It also sounds like you both need to learn each others love language.
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

Marriage is a 24/7 commitment. Sometimes it is the littleist thing that makes or breaks it.

He does not want to go for any counselling...to me it shows that he doesn't want this marriage to work.

He does not want to go for any counselling...to me it shows that he doesn't want this marriage to work.

You may want to read through some support pages for married couples. What you are going through sounds like a build-up to abuse. It usually starts by breaking the spirit and making the person feel guilty for everything (even things that don't exist).