Hi everyone...My finacee has been trying to get visitations with his daughter, but her mother never really lets him... He's seen her for one visitation, which was only a week and a half...They have joint custody, but he lives here in NC and she moved to MI after they seperated...She wouldn't allow their daughter to come down for fathers day, his birthday, or any holidays so far, which the divorce papers say that he is entitled to... Now, they planned on him picking her up halfway to bring her down for Thanksgiving, and he made plans to do so.. He called her today (Monday) and she said, "Oh, i work that day so she can't come down".Can she refuse to let him pick her up, even though their papers say that he has visitation, and it's up to each party to make it happen? Thanks for any help in advance.

She can (and will) keep on doing it until he does something about it. He needs to file contempt of visitation and since she moved so far away, it would not be out of line to request that she cover the expenses for travel. He needs to do this right away before his relationship with his daughter becomes further damaged.

He also needs to get an emergency hearing so that a judge can force the mother to send the child for Thanksgiving. He needs to file NOW.

He wants to go see a judge, but his boss won't let him leave to go to court...And the worse part about it is that even though his daughter gets to talk to him on the phone, the other day she told him that she had thought he was dead, because one of her friends is a little girl whose daddy passed away, so her friend never sees her daddy... It was so sad... Then when she talked to me, she said the same thing to me...I cried... And her mother knows that she thinks that, because she had the conversation on speaker phone...

Ask his attorney to issue a subpeona for him to appear. If he loses his job, that employer would spend more money on defending a wrongful termination lawsuit vs just letting him go to a hearing.