Ive been with my boyfriend who has been ''SEPERATED'' for over three years well when we first got together he was seeing the boys every other weekend that was all well and good. Well she deciedes theres nothing in maryland for her so she takes off and geos to north carolina. Where she wont let us see the kids at all.she left in july 2004 its been so long it makes me so angry sad part is my boyfriend and this person cant come to an agreement about visitation or child support .Which thats all she want anyway $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
If he aint got that dont even bother with HER time..... Is it really fair? I can understand and whole heartdly and agree support your childern. BUT NO AMOUNT OF MONEY WILL BRING BACK ALL THE LOST TIME. IF YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE EMAIL ME AT [VICTORIA_GRFFN@YAHOO.COM]

Have him take the mother to court to establish custody and CS.

Until there is a court order guaranteeing proper visitation, there is nothing for the court to recognize.

what a minute...

were they married? are they divorced?

Judging from her post, her boyfriend is not divorced. Which brings up a whole new batch of questions for the OP, but they have nothing to do with the visitation/CS.

OP, he needs to file for a DIVORCE (why he would just remain in limbo for 3 years is beyond me) and for custody/visitation. Nothing will be done until he does so.

Agreed.

If there is no divorce order, there can be no visitation limitations and, therefore, your boyfriend can do nothing. She can move whereever she wants because there is nothing telling her she can't.

Agreed.

If there is no divorce order, there can be no visitation limitations and, therefore, your boyfriend can do nothing. She can move whereever she wants because there is nothing telling her she can't.

There is also nothing stopping the boyfriend from picking up the kids and taking them with HIM if he is still married and their legal father.

That's correct.

And that's where my entirely unrelated, personal questions for the OP come in.