I am currently in a situation where my fience' has adopted a child from a previous marriage. He did so only due to the fact he was married. Their mariage broke down and she left for another man. The ex wife has told him that she only had him adopt the child for the money. Not being married to her any more, in the state of Connecticut, can he relinquish his rights? Why should he be obligated to pay for her mistakes? He does not see the child and the child has made it clear he does not want to be with him. PLEASE HELP US!!

I am unaware of any law allowing you to take back an adoption due to inconvenience.

It is not a matter of inconvenience. His situation is very complicated and The birth mother hasn't even raised this child. The grandmother has. She has used him for support purposes. This child does not even stay with the birth mother. She has abandond the child but continues to collect child support for him. Is he legaly tied to this child until he is 18 or can he give up his rights?

He is the legal father of the child. He cannot terminate his parental rights so that he can get out of child support. He does have the right to file for custody/visitation.

This is why a person should be very sure he or she wants to be a PARENT to a child before adopting.

There is ALLOT to his situation. She had him adopt this child after he was in a boating accident and came into a huge settlement and suffered brain trauma. It is documented that he lost his cognative thinking. I am not so sure he FULLY UNDERSTOOD what he was doing when he signed the papers.

In that case, the only advice anyone can give is to get a lawyer and see if this is a case of illegal or fraudulent adoption.

we have an attorney but do we need a specialty attorney for this matter?

You need a family law atty, preferably one that specializes in adoptions.

Thanks. Much appreciated.

I found out that I had a daughter four years ago. At the time, she was two. I know that I have the right to persue visitation but I also know that if she does not comply there is little recourse. There have been some recent events that have caused me to question my ability to have any influence in the methods my daughter is raised. At this point I am strongly concidering relequeshing my paternal rights. What are the steps in taking such action? Are there any real alternatives? Conneticut is a woman's state and little reguard to fathers rights.

start your own thread. Your question has nothing to do with the OP's.