i'm in a similar situation to the last post, but wanted to know if there is anything different i can do.

i have a son with a man i never married. i only lived with him, when it was convenient for him i may add, and he used me in every imagineable way, and i finally left him. i moved on and found a man to whom i am now engaged and very happy with and he has been in my son's life since he was about 6 months old. he is the only dad my son knows and i want to keep it that way. his real dad is a danger to him in more ways than one...he's a liar, and cheat, and manipulator, a theif, a convicted felon, and mooch and a sorry excuse for a human being if i've ever seen one. he's not done ANYTHING to help me with dylan except at times when it's a benefit to him. he can't keep a job, and now won't get one because they're going to take child support out. he cant keep a place of his own because he can't keep a job and so in the last 6 months he's lived in at least 3 places...that i know of. he smokes marijuana and i don't know if he does anything else, but i wouldn't put it past him. i don't trust him with my son at all. and he doesn't make any attempt to see dylan...he never called to see him on fathers day, never called on dylan's birthday, never called for anything...unless it was to show him off to one of his new girlfriends in which case i did not allow that. i just want to know what i can do here....

i talked to him and we both agreed that him giving up his rights would be best, and my fiance wants to adopt dylan when we get married.

should i take Darrick (the father) to court and get all of his custody and stuff taken away and then wait until i get married to go through with the surrendering of rights and adoption or is there a way i can get the surrendering of the rghts taken care of before that?

i'm in a similar situation to the last post, but wanted to know if there is anything different i can do.

i have a son with a man i never married. i only lived with him, when it was convenient for him i may add, and he used me in every imagineable way, and i finally left him. i moved on and found a man to whom i am now engaged and very happy with and he has been in my son's life since he was about 6 months old. he is the only dad my son knows and i want to keep it that way. his real dad is a danger to him in more ways than one...he's a liar, and cheat, and manipulator, a theif, a convicted felon, and mooch and a sorry excuse for a human being if i've ever seen one. he's not done ANYTHING to help me with dylan except at times when it's a benefit to him. he can't keep a job, and now won't get one because they're going to take child support out. he cant keep a place of his own because he can't keep a job and so in the last 6 months he's lived in at least 3 places...that i know of. he smokes marijuana and i don't know if he does anything else, but i wouldn't put it past him. i don't trust him with my son at all. and he doesn't make any attempt to see dylan...he never called to see him on fathers day, never called on dylan's birthday, never called for anything...unless it was to show him off to one of his new girlfriends in which case i did not allow that. i just want to know what i can do here....

i talked to him and we both agreed that him giving up his rights would be best, and my fiance wants to adopt dylan when we get married.

should i take Darrick (the father) to court and get all of his custody and stuff taken away and then wait until i get married to go through with the surrendering of rights and adoption or is there a way i can get the surrendering of the rghts taken care of before that?

You'll need to be married first. from what you posted apparently there is a CS order, correct? If there is and he's refusing to pay and does not attempt any contact it will be a good way to terminate rights if he changes his mind and doesn't consent to the adoption.