mommydepressedinpa
10-25-2006, 03:04 AM
Hi, again, I know I might sound bitter but it just does not seem fair, first and most important, as I posted before, my stbx went for 50/50 shared custody and MY lawyer ''gave'' it to him on the day of the conceilation day...I have nothing against her being with her Dad, I love ''my'' Dad and would not have wanted my mother to hold me back from seeing him when I was a child, but it is just how I am all she knows, we have never been apart, and when she has to go for th long stays it is really hard on her, REALLY hard, I showed my lawyer the home video of how she acts and she suggested that I take her to a phsyc. to be evaluated, she is only two, any how, it looks like there is not too much I can do about the custody...I just wanted him to break up the long stays...(5 nights)
he wants me to just sign the divorce papers, and get nothing!!!
he packed me and our daughters things like a dog last Feb. in his basement, all our stuff was just all packed up like a dog (my Daughter's and mine)
he owned the home before marriage...he basically threw us out.
it's a long story but IMO, it is all about money, because he wants to get back together, and live as a family BUT only AFTER we are divorced, because he said that if we get back together before we are divorced then it will jepordize his shared custody, well, forget it, I have no intrest in being his Wh**e and slave...and that is what I would be, I was when we were married..with me just ''living'' with him and his 10 year old and 16 year old, and OUR two year old, I would be nothing but a slave...he has 3 kids and they all have different mothers, I am one of them...lol..quite the stud, huh?:rolleyes:
Now the reason I am not sleping tonight is because in the beginning he told me (oral) that he would let her go to my school district, but only this school, so if I moved right down the road to another district, he would say NO WAY, and bring her to his district...
well, we were talking about the divorce via email tonight and he said that he will not think about the school until she goes to school, but I wanted to enroll her in a preschool, and that is the ONE thing I wanted, just the school...I live within a half mile of the school, but he lives that close to his too....
he also is telling me that HE wants to claim her EVERY YEAR on his tax return, AND he will get the ''earned income tax credit'' I work very limited hours, so I can spend all the time I can with her..I will work more when she goes to school...but he told me, since he is nice he will let me have the earned credit....but I might go back into bussiness myself in a few years, the business that I CLOSED for him..... so why should HE get to claim her every year???
He has his own business in his home, he is a selfemployed CPA, and has a brand new home PAID for, (150 thousand at the least) he has money, he took his 16 yar old daughter to LA this summer ''just for the heck of it'' he said....so he HAS money, I dont think he is rich but he tells me that he is BELOW poverty level......now he is telling me that I will have to pay HIM....(marrital debt) but we didnt buy anything..we did buy a bedroom set, but he told me before he paid cash for it..he is a ''cash man'' he has a very succesfull business and is into the stock market big time..he is a very smart man.
oh one more thing...on his 2005 tax return he had to pay a 6,000 capital gains tax, from selling a stock, I knew nothing about it, he is lying about it,,,who knows what is on 2004...we were married only two years...and he decided he wanted to end it and he is just calling every shot...
he had dividends too, whatever that means)))
What can I do about the school..
One more thing....I was looking him up on the computer (like background check) and I found 2 DUI's from in the 90's (he is a drinker) but I found another big charge, it says about a sentance date and all, and all I can find is the docket sheet, the actual charge is not there but the docket numbers are, and it says about ''lower court docket numbers''??? can I get the charge some how?
Thanks so much for reading my babble...I feel better just writing all this down... I am in PA. ((((Allegheny county.
mommyreallydepressedtonight, well, now it is morning..;-)
no time to proof read, sorry..
he wants me to just sign the divorce papers, and get nothing!!!
he packed me and our daughters things like a dog last Feb. in his basement, all our stuff was just all packed up like a dog (my Daughter's and mine)
he owned the home before marriage...he basically threw us out.
it's a long story but IMO, it is all about money, because he wants to get back together, and live as a family BUT only AFTER we are divorced, because he said that if we get back together before we are divorced then it will jepordize his shared custody, well, forget it, I have no intrest in being his Wh**e and slave...and that is what I would be, I was when we were married..with me just ''living'' with him and his 10 year old and 16 year old, and OUR two year old, I would be nothing but a slave...he has 3 kids and they all have different mothers, I am one of them...lol..quite the stud, huh?:rolleyes:
Now the reason I am not sleping tonight is because in the beginning he told me (oral) that he would let her go to my school district, but only this school, so if I moved right down the road to another district, he would say NO WAY, and bring her to his district...
well, we were talking about the divorce via email tonight and he said that he will not think about the school until she goes to school, but I wanted to enroll her in a preschool, and that is the ONE thing I wanted, just the school...I live within a half mile of the school, but he lives that close to his too....
he also is telling me that HE wants to claim her EVERY YEAR on his tax return, AND he will get the ''earned income tax credit'' I work very limited hours, so I can spend all the time I can with her..I will work more when she goes to school...but he told me, since he is nice he will let me have the earned credit....but I might go back into bussiness myself in a few years, the business that I CLOSED for him..... so why should HE get to claim her every year???
He has his own business in his home, he is a selfemployed CPA, and has a brand new home PAID for, (150 thousand at the least) he has money, he took his 16 yar old daughter to LA this summer ''just for the heck of it'' he said....so he HAS money, I dont think he is rich but he tells me that he is BELOW poverty level......now he is telling me that I will have to pay HIM....(marrital debt) but we didnt buy anything..we did buy a bedroom set, but he told me before he paid cash for it..he is a ''cash man'' he has a very succesfull business and is into the stock market big time..he is a very smart man.
oh one more thing...on his 2005 tax return he had to pay a 6,000 capital gains tax, from selling a stock, I knew nothing about it, he is lying about it,,,who knows what is on 2004...we were married only two years...and he decided he wanted to end it and he is just calling every shot...
he had dividends too, whatever that means)))
What can I do about the school..
One more thing....I was looking him up on the computer (like background check) and I found 2 DUI's from in the 90's (he is a drinker) but I found another big charge, it says about a sentance date and all, and all I can find is the docket sheet, the actual charge is not there but the docket numbers are, and it says about ''lower court docket numbers''??? can I get the charge some how?
Thanks so much for reading my babble...I feel better just writing all this down... I am in PA. ((((Allegheny county.
mommyreallydepressedtonight, well, now it is morning..;-)
no time to proof read, sorry..
