MY uncle who is now 25 was arrested last year for old charges (drugs), but the kicker is that when he was sixteen he had sex with a girl who was 14 and her parents made her say that she was raped mainly because they found out that she was dating a boy of a different race. when he went to see the parole board they brought this crime up. however, he was arrested for that crime, but never went to court or did anytime,now he is about tonget out of jail and they want to label him as a sex offender for that. I thought that in the state of alabama that juvenile records were sealed. He made a bad choice by ecen dating that girl, but now he has been married for 8 years and has three children and him having this label will make it harder for him to get a job and take care of his children. Can they label him for something he never had a chance to go to court and defend himself about? Please help his wife needs him home working a job and taking care of these children they have at total of five childen she had two from her previous marrige.

You aren't providing a lot of detail... but let me try to fill in the gaps.

First, he wasn't charged because he was of a different race... he was charged because he had sex with a little girl. Granted, he wasn't much older at the time, but 14 is a child by every definition I know of.

Second, you simply can not be charged with a crime and suffer a penalty without due process. If, at the time, your uncle pled to a charge that is now forcing him to be on the sex registry... sorry.

If nothing else, your uncle's situation will show the others on this board how having sex at a very young age can come back to haunt them later in life.

no, the young lady he was dealing with had been moved around from school to school and her parents decided they had to do something because she was constanlty running away and staying in trouble, so instead of dealing with her they got the boys she was sleeping with which was my uncle and a few others. She was not a victim, she is an adult now and guess what nothing has changed about her, but my uncle life is ruined because she was out of control. yes they should not have had sex, but who protects the guys in these cases, no one forced her, even after all of this happened she kept calling our house and my grandmother had to make her stop. Having sex with her was wrong but they were both just children. he lost a football scholarship and all the things he had been working for what did she loose, nothing. she got to keep sleeping around and running the streets. We can not alwyas try to protect the girls, we have to protect both. boys and girlsl both can be victims.

That's why we have lawyers and courts. He should have access to both.

I hate to say it, but he was younger, but far from a child, and he knew that he should not have been with a girl 14 years of age. There is no laws that protect someone that sleeps with a person that is 14, there is just laws telling him that it is wrong, and he still did it. It is not that I don't feel for his family that he has now, this is a bummer, but the fact remains that he raped a child in the eyes of the law, and now he must be a registered sex offender. It may be helpful for him to tell his future employers, that he was only 16, that may soften the blow. It may let them know that he was young, and stupid, but not a 20 year old sleeping with a 14 year old. It does not promise a job, but it may make them at least consider a little more. Good luck to all of you! I must add, her immaturity does not excuse what he did, it just shows even more, why she is not of legal age to make the determination that sex is the right thing for her at that age. She is a wild child, but still he raped her.

thanks for your responses. He should have known better and now I am leaving the outcome up to God. God can do things that no one even believes is possible. Thanks a bunch.

thanks for your responses. He should have known better and now I am leaving the outcome up to God. God can do things that no one even believes is possible. Thanks a bunch.

You are 100% correct on that! I wish you the best of luck! I also extend this wish to the his family!

thanks for your responses. He should have known better and now I am leaving the outcome up to God. God can do things that no one even believes is possible. Thanks a bunch.

What he needs is a lawyer. Does he have one? What's the lawyer saying?

And did he confess to a charge regarding his relationship with the 14 year old girl?

I would wonder if the parole board had records of this, then he was at least charged with some sort of crime, or they would not have been able to bring it up at the parole hearing?