I was divorced in 2005 in Oklahoma. I have since moved to Iowa and live here with my three daughters. My ex is in the military and says when he gets out he is going to take me back to court to get child support lower than it is now. I was wandering that if he does this will I have to go to Oklahoma to court or will it be Iowa. OR will it be Kentucky, where he lives? Another question is should I have the child support transferred to Iowa and go thru Iowa child support? I understand him wanting to get child support lower than it is if he isn't working but he doesn't plan on going back to work and live off his wife's income so he doesn't have to pay child support. That part I don't understand. Also is there a way to take his rights away all together? Since the seperation in 2002 and divorce in 2005 till now he has seen his girls 24 days. And some of those days I had to get them because he was passed out drunk. I could care less about the child support at this point. I am more concerned as to his yearly calls that gets my girls hopes up and then he lets them down everytime.

Not sure what to do
beeurself4evr

It would all depend on who filed what where....so if he filed in OK, you would have to fight in OK...unless you changed the jurisdiction on custody matters to Iowa...but he could also file in KY but you could probably get the jurisdiction changed.
Did you call the police whrn you found him passed out drunk and your children in his care???
He will still have to pay child support regardless of if he works or not. (at least it will be orded....collecting it would be a different matter...) The state would calculate it as if he were making minimuim wage or sometimes even as the rate of pay from his last employment.
Most states do not allow for parental rights to be terminated unless CPS gets involved or he has abandoned them (ie no contact & no support for 6months to a year depending)or if you remarry and a step-parent is adopting.