Just like all the other guys who entered a letter concerning how they are being screwed over by ex's , paying child support for a child the mother will not let them see, taking your taxes and half your wages. Sounds really tough for you Carrie, I have no simpathy! I was involved in a relationship with a , so called good mormon girl in Salt Lake City in 2001, and made the huge mistake of concieving a child with her. I know she suffers from multiple anxiety problems, thyroid, and who knows what else, but this is not a good reason to lie like a dog to your parents, friends, and most important God. After our child was about 4 months old she lost her mind. Her mom,Sharon, would come over to help babysit, while I would go to work, and Carrie, would rest. It was to overwhelming for her,I guess, to help raise our child with me, so her mom was always there. The main reason we split up was her mom felt that it was not right for her daughter, who was 24 at the time, to go shopping at the store with our son , without a wedding ring on her finger. Because our child is mixed her mom thought,"people notice her more being a single,unmarried, mom with a mixed child, and they stare at her, and she feels uncomfortable". The pressure was put on me to marry this physco, not by her, but her mother. Nope, sorry I've been down that road before. After we broke up, not a week later, she was banging on a friends door at 4 oclock in the morning, with her father in the car. She just had to tell me in front of her father, what a scum I was. That the reason she was smoking a cigerette, was because of the pressure I had put on her, and claimed to her dad , this was her first cigarette she had ever smoked, looked like you knew how to inhale pretty good for the first time smoking. Right, she was smoking a cigerette when I first met her. She ended her tempertantrum by saying,"you'll never see us again, and left back to Price. A couple of weeks later I was served child support papers, while working in a restraunt. That means her payments were not going to be that much. They were cancelled, until three months later, when I had to get a second job to make more money. She waited until she knew she could get more money from me to file for support again. She would not, and still to this day, let me see, or know were my son is , but i'm still paying the same amount she waited for.I don't mind paying for my child as long as I get to visit him. We have made efforts to find her, sent letters, and no return contact has been made. I know there is nothing I can do , because of the child protectancy order in all the states don't care about the situation, but this is ridiculous. Carrie, I hope that you realize the wrong things you have done, and still doing, but who am I to judge. You will be judged on the day you stand in front of the holy gates of heaven, and are asked of the sins committed on earth. Don't lie about it then, He already know's......
See ya, and I wouldn't want to be ya......
mochaman :cool:

If you have any visitation rights, I would call the proper authorities, and claim that she kidnapped the child. I would contact the child support enforcement department, and ask why you are made to pay for a child that you do not know where the child is. Has paternity been established? Had visitation been court ordered ever for you?

I am no expert, but maybe you can hire an attorney and try to get visitation set up through the courts. You have just as much right to visit with your child as she has to receive child support from you. An attorney may be able to get her address from the child support office (not sure if an attorney can do this). The money is being sent somewhere.

To the OP. Did you mention an order of protection in your post? Did she file the order of protection, and if so, citing what reasons.

Have the courts denied visitation?

Here's the other thread that the OP's wife started. The story keeps evolving.


www.laborlawtalk.com/showthread.php?t=157253 (http://www.laborlawtalk.com/showthread.php?t=157253)

hey, whats up? How many children do you have, 4 I thought. Me to.It's funny because my wife and I have been fine with the circumstances we deal with. At first, when she told me about this site , she as astounded by all the similiar stories about the crazy things dealing with custody and paternity cases. She was more excited to see what other alternatives people in similiar situations had. I think the more she read about how much crazy stuff goes on , the madder she got. We were not looking for a negative ,well that's what you get ,you pay what you deserve,tell your husband he messed up ,type of response. If you are a counsler for this type of stuff, or a natural helper , or even had a degree for law advice, then thank you for the free service.I was lead to believe that people who inquired and responded to others people stories or questions told them of what he or she did,where to go, or sorry there nothing you can do.Thats fine, but when you blast someone you have no clue about their husband being a whatever, that would probally fuel the fire.But that's how it is, or how you roll.I know your really missing Vince Young now, you'll be allright.I don't mind the swrewd response in my own worded implies, but the wife is doing what she does best, sticking up and caring for me You gotta to love that.
The reason for the justice remark, that is who I was with in Utah when the whole Nikkie thing started in Idaho. Can you see any relation to the stories? That is why I didn't really care what the order from idaho said, I wanted the truth. Right then and there done ,without the struggle. This is what fired up the girl I was with in Utah,then she started the other ****. So that is why now I'm sick of the not seeing this child.I know the child in Utah is mine, now we are going to get visitation through the courts, see , without struggle there is no progress.I am waiting for the reports from the Idaho css on my case here to finish what we need to do. Just wondering if any one else thinks I'm crazy for not or crazy if I do. By the way, Bledsoe better start moving his feet, or were going to waste our one good year with T.O.later