Okay today my stepdaughter's maternal aunt, emailed me today. She told me that on my husband's financial affidavit he needs to put my financial information on it because we are married. Apparently my stepdaughter's mother is looking for things to take us back to court and have something against us to make herself look better. They told me that on the affidavit that we put bills on there that are in my name and we can't put bills in my name on there. Little do they know 90% of the stuff on the affidavit are in his name as well. My husband helps pay for ALL the bill anyways. The only one that would even be questionable would be gas.

My question is does my financial info HAVE to be on there? I dont think so!!!

She wasnt even ordered to pay child support so why is she even complaining!

Also I know this is procedure but I am pissed about it... but why in the world would they mail her a copy of OUR personal financial information. She is the type of person to use that to her advantage. She has already tried checking my husband's credit a year and half ago. We got a letter in the mail saying thank you from freecreditreport.com. We checked into it and it was her email address. So now she may find a way to snoop in our business. And being that she doesnt have a job she didnt even have to fill an affidavit out.

Please help I am furious!!!!

you dont have to do anything without a court order.

check your states guidelines here...

http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html

from my experience most states guidelines are the same. I have yet to see where the wifes income comes into play, it may be different in the state you live in. Keep this in mind...if your states child support laws conflict with Federals...Federal usually supersedes, I'm not positive in your case though.

Your income does not matter. You're right that the child support enforcement should not have given her that info...Perhaps your lawyer gave it to her lawyer? And why is the Aunt butting in? You need to grow a spine/ a back bone and stop being NICE! You don't have to speak to her relatives. You especially shouldn't be talking to her relatives about the case. IF they are calling to discuss the child, that is different but you don't even need to speak to them about her. You/your husband is only obligated to talk to the child's mom.
You need bounderies,limits, or they will just keep you in high stress mode.

About the credit report thing, that is identity theft! Your husband should have reported it!

Our lawyer sent it to her because she doesnt have a lawyer. No the aunt doesnt even like her sister because of all this. She wasnt being rude about telling us she was just saying that in her child support case that she had to include her new husband's income so she wanted to warn me just in case. I know I need a back bone I am a very nice sweet yet gullible person and I always get stabbed in the back. I really try to be mean I just cant. I AM always in stress mode thanks to that family. The mother relies on all her family to help her in every way possible thats why they are all so involved. The granmother of the child called me last week and sais that she would be picking the child up next Friday (which is tomorrow the 8th for the weekend. Yet we dont even think the mother is going to be there so we are debating on even letting her go over there. It is suppose to be visitation for the mother and she may not even be home til next week.

They said she was broke down with her boyfriend in his semi truck in Louisiana. (I have stated this in another post of mine). I mean the mother lives with her mom and dad and pays no rent no child support and has no job or car. They spoil her and she still gave her child up but in return we have to go through all kinds of stress of her threats of going back to court and worrying about her while she is away.

Our lawyer says it my hubbys decision to let the child go with them or not. We dont want to be the bad guys or not allow them to see the child but we are afraid that the mom is gonna stay away a lot and the parents think that they will get the visitation just like the mom is suppose to (every other weekend and every wednesday) We want them all to be a part of her life but we have to draw the line somewhere you know. My hubby said tonight that he is gonna just have to put his foot down once and for all. They were very strict on him when they had custody. Thanks for listening to me vent!!!

I just know that sometimes we as women are guided by this feeling that we have to do what is right. We have empathy for people and it back fires. I'm through with nice. I'll be nice to the post man, the garbage man, the cute guy who lives a few blocks down and washes car with his shirt off, the neighborhood stray cat, BUT I AM not being nice to my EX or his family. I drew the line in the sand and built a concrete barrier! Guess what happened.... they stopped calling me. They stopped bugging me. IF they did call, I'd say "Oh just one moment" and Hand my 3 year old son the phone. Then I'd whisper song tiltles like "twinkle twinkle" or "ABC" in his ear. And when he said "bye", I hung up. They have no reason to call me. They can visit my son when his father gets his visitation. Being nice got me stepped on, I'd rather be a B**ch and have some peace!

But you can politely say, My lawyer asked that I not discuss the details.
I'm glad your hubby is stepping up to the plate. He can put his foot down and won't feel quite as guilty.

I just know that sometimes we as women are guided by this feeling that we have to do what is right. We have empathy for people and it back fires. I'm through with nice. I'll be nice to the post man, the garbage man, the cute guy who lives a few blocks down and washes car with his shirt off, the neighborhood stray cat, BUT I AM not being nice to my EX or his family. I drew the line in the sand and built a concrete barrier! Guess what happened.... they stopped calling me. They stopped bugging me. IF they did call, I'd say "Oh just one moment" and Hand my 3 year old son the phone. Then I'd whisper song tiltles like "twinkle twinkle" or "ABC" in his ear. And when he said "bye", I hung up. They have no reason to call me. They can visit my son when his father gets his visitation. Being nice got me stepped on, I'd rather be a B**ch and have some peace!

But you can politely say, My lawyer asked that I not discuss the details.
I'm glad your hubby is stepping up to the plate. He can put his foot down and won't feel quite as guilty.

so true! I was once a nice girl...did all that I was told and followedall the rules but after being stepped on by not only my ex but the courts as well, I try to help everyone else become a B**TCH!!

also dont be so sure about this...she wanted to warn me just in case blood is thicker than water and blood isnt so thick! dont trust anyone fully!

Okay today my stepdaughter's maternal aunt, emailed me today. She told me that on my husband's financial affidavit he needs to put my financial information on it because we are married. Apparently my stepdaughter's mother is looking for things to take us back to court and have something against us to make herself look better. They told me that on the affidavit that we put bills on there that are in my name and we can't put bills in my name on there. Little do they know 90% of the stuff on the affidavit are in his name as well. My husband helps pay for ALL the bill anyways. The only one that would even be questionable would be gas.

My question is does my financial info HAVE to be on there? I dont think so!!!

She wasnt even ordered to pay child support so why is she even complaining!

Also I know this is procedure but I am pissed about it... but why in the world would they mail her a copy of OUR personal financial information. She is the type of person to use that to her advantage. She has already tried checking my husband's credit a year and half ago. We got a letter in the mail saying thank you from freecreditreport.com. We checked into it and it was her email address. So now she may find a way to snoop in our business. And being that she doesnt have a job she didnt even have to fill an affidavit out.

Please help I am furious!!!!
I really hate to be the bearer of bad news, but unfortunately the aunt is PARTLY correct, but it has NOTHING to do with you being married.
IF your husband listed ANY expenses that are SOLEY yours, such as: credit cards or loans that are in your name ONLY, clothing for you, grooming for you, medical for you, etc. then it is a problem. An affiant is supposed to list only thier own personal expenses, not other household members'. It is okay for him to list the full rent/mortgage, full taxes on home, full cost of food. But for things like auto expenses, clothing, grooming, etc. he should list only HIS personal expense.

The bad thing about him listing your personal expenses is this: it opens up the right of the other party (in this case your hubby's ex- NOT her sister) to full disclosure of YOUR income. HOWEVER: there is a way around giving your info- all your husband needs to do is to file an Amended Financial Affidavit, removing any expenses that are in your name only (joint CCs and joint loans, should be halved- for instance a joint $20 per month payment becomes $10, etc.).

He can read up on the mandatory disclosure laws at http://phonl.com/fl_law/rules/famlawrules rule 12.285

Also, it doesn't matter if ex is employed or not- EVERY party has to file/serve a financial affidavit- it cannot be waived for any reason. That is also in the rule above. It also tells in there how to demand a financial affidabvit from the ex.

I don't understand why your husband's attorney would have sent the ex's sister a copy of his finnancial affidavit- unless that is the address of record for your hubby's ex. If it is, then the sister could get into huge trouble by opening mail that is addressed to her sister. Hubby needs to ask his attorney if it was mailed to sisiter's home but addresses specifically to the ex.
IF by some weird chance that the attorney actually did send it (addresses it) specifically to the sister- your hubby needs to have a long talk with the attorney and explain to him that he could be disbarred for what he did.

No, on the financial affidavit we only put his things. I didn't put my truck payment or anything that was strictly mine. I knew better than that.

The ex is the one who received the paper not the sister, sorry I wasn't clear on that. She must have been with her when she opened it.

No, on the financial affidavit we only put his things. I didn't put my truck payment or anything that was strictly mine. I knew better than that.

The ex is the one who received the paper not the sister, sorry I wasn't clear on that. She must have been with her when she opened it.
Good, so he won't have to file an amended financial affidavit. ANY requests made by his ex, her lawyer or anyone else for any of YOUR financial info can be refused. If the request comes in the form of a legally served subpoena, your husband will need to file an answer objecting to the requests as legally irrelevant.