my current fiance and his ex wife had 2 kids together, now 4 and 5. both in school. well she had an affair, (with a guy that had herpes) and he booted her out. i started helping in the raising the the babies, when one was abt 4 months and the other abt a year and a half. its now been long over a year after they were officially divorced, he's now going for parental termination rights. she has not once went to the court hearings, or paid child support, or ever tried contacting them, i mean literally nothing.. the kids dont even know her as mom, they call me mommy. i been raising them since they were babies, and now their in school. their "bio" mom constantly moves around, and lives with people, dont have a steady income, they bum money, shes remarried with a child- just whenever she wants to go somewhere dumps him off for a few days with her parents, etc.shes been contacted numerous times about court hearings, she has nothing to give them, but now she wants to come into their lives.. its been over 3 yrs now.. (my family knows hers) i want to adopt them as my own, i love them, i been the one raising and taking care of them through thick and thin, and it tears me up thinking that their little lives can be devastated. what rite does she have to be called a mom after she abandones her own blood for years and then wants to come back.. i been engaged for a little over a year. we all been living together like a normal family. she literally is a dead beat. the kids have a home here, we have not moved, they have education, food, shelter, clothing, medical, and love. why does she want to bring them into her envirnment. they are happy here, im afraid that the judge will grant her joint custody, and me and my fiance dont want that, we just want her to leave us alone-at least till the kids are old enough to decide if they want to see her. am i in the wrong? what are the odds? the same judge thats doing this case, he ordered her in attempt of court, and also signed the protection order back before they officially divorced. she was abusive to the kids and him.. im so worried sick. when this is over then we will get married, and adopt, and start a new chapter. any advice?? she called child abuse hotline several times (i feel that our lives are interrupted alot by this) we had investigations done, and more numerous things, only they named it "bull". they knew she was making all this up, and getting tired of her calls. sorry so long. thanks for reading, any advice would be great.. what are her odds of winning? in arkansas.

'Abandonment' in Arkansas means:

Failure of the parent to provide reasonable support and to maintain regular contact with the juvenile through statement or contact, when the failure is accompanied by an intention on the part of the parent to permit the condition to continue for an indefinite period in the future;

Failure to support or maintain regular contact with the juvenile without just cause; or
An articulated intent to forego parental responsibility.

go here type in parental abandonment in the search boxes

http://courts.state.ar.us/

read and/or use a couple of those cases for court.

I'm confused.
Why are you going to court?
Why was she found in contempt of court?
Why don't you just adopt the children?
During a step parent adoption, the bio-mom's rights would be terminated. She might agree to this as she would no longer have to pay support or at least be ordered to pay support.

I'm confused.
Why are you going to court?
Why was she found in contempt of court?
Why don't you just adopt the children?
During a step parent adoption, the bio-mom's rights would be terminated. She might agree to this as she would no longer have to pay support or at least be ordered to pay support.

Of course, she and her fiancee would actually have to get married first. She is not a step parent, yet. (I mean that in only the way a court will see this. It has nothing to do with the love, care and concern these children have recieved for the OP)