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theweirdchick02
09-02-2006, 06:44 PM
hey ppl I am a soon to be 15 year old and this totally suxs cause I can't date this 18 year old guy who is soo good to me
is it legal ??? he is scared to be around me simply cause he is afraid of getting thrown in to jail but he tries to hang out with me as much as he can
wat am I suppose to do?
i have liked this guy for over a year and it doesn't seem right I shouldn't date him
i mean come on it is illegal or what's the deal???
and btw the only reason I don't date someone my own age is cause all the guys I know my age are either gay or act like total idiots
let me know if anyone knows the deal!

turbowray
09-02-2006, 07:23 PM
I answered on your other post, please keep it to one post, so we don't get confused. I at least now know, you are the 14 year old, and not the 18 year old. If you stick to just this post, I will give you what I know. The age of sexual consent in alabama is 16. So for 2 years, he can not touch you in any way shape or form, or he goes to jail. If you really like him, you should wait until he is out of danger of getting in trouble. He is very wise, to be worried, because his suspicions are right! Stay away, or you will cause him to go to jail.

cyjeff
09-02-2006, 09:04 PM
I echo...

Any relationship with him puts him in serious jeopardy of jail time.

You are, of course, allowed to disagree with the law. You both still have to adhere to it, however.

Sorry.

xxlain
01-02-2007, 09:10 PM
I am 17 and will turn 18 in May and my b/f is 14 and will be turning 15 in may as well. Can i get into trouble for dating him? We are not having sex or anything close to it but if we end up doing so, will i get into trouble? Ok before you judge me he is very mature for his age, he had to grow up fast, he acts older than some 19 year olds that i know, and i love him very much. My mom told me that If i ever get caught out with him I could be thrown into jail, she also said it doesnt matter if neither one of our parents care if we are dating, the law can still step in and I dont want to get into trouble and he doesnt want me to either soo please let me know!!!!!

turbowray
01-03-2007, 12:35 AM
I am 17 and will turn 18 in May and my b/f is 14 and will be turning 15 in may as well. Can i get into trouble for dating him? We are not having sex or anything close to it but if we end up doing so, will i get into trouble? Ok before you judge me he is very mature for his age, he had to grow up fast, he acts older than some 19 year olds that i know, and i love him very much. My mom told me that If i ever get caught out with him I could be thrown into jail, she also said it doesnt matter if neither one of our parents care if we are dating, the law can still step in and I dont want to get into trouble and he doesnt want me to either soo please let me know!!!!!

What state do you live in? Even if the law says you can date, with no contact at all, the parents, can obtain a restraining order, and keep you away from him until he is 18. The law does not care how mature anyone is, they only look at the numbers. We do not have to like it, but we do have to follow it. Thank you for coming here to see what is legal and not legal, instead of just stepping into it first, and asking questions later, when it is to late to turn back. So, what state are you from, laws differ from state to state.

xxlain
01-03-2007, 01:08 PM
I live in Alabama. Thank you soo much for taking out the time to read my post!!!!

turbowray
01-03-2007, 05:57 PM
I live in Alabama. Thank you soo much for taking out the time to read my post!!!!



Please keep in mind that many states have additional laws that are used
to harass adults who have consensual sexual activity with minors. For
instance showing a minor pornography, providing drugs or alcohol to the
minor, or being in a position of authority of the minor, like a school
employee can change the age of consent to a lower age. There are many cases
of adults having a minor at their home without a parents permission, the
parent will call the police and say their child has run away, and then
direct the police to the home of the adult, who is not charged for having
sex with the minor, but is charged with "contributing to the delinquency of
a minor." This is a common set up by police, and judges love to throw the
book at adults who have consensual sexual activity with minors. I do not
have this additional information for all 50 states.

AGE OF
SEXUAL
STATE CONSENT
ALABAMA 16


It looks like until this person is 16, you can do nothing, no kissing, touching, groping, etc. Don't forget the restraining order they can get against you.

turbowray
01-03-2007, 05:58 PM
I live in Alabama. Thank you soo much for taking out the time to read my post!!!!

No problem!

xxlain
01-03-2007, 08:12 PM
If I have the permission from his parents to be dating him, can the law step in and do something about it? When I turn 18 I'm going to move in with him, his mom said it's ok. Can the law do anything about that? Thank you soo much for helping me!!!!!

turbowray
01-03-2007, 08:27 PM
If I have the permission from his parents to be dating him, can the law step in and do something about it? When I turn 18 I'm going to move in with him, his mom said it's ok. Can the law do anything about that? Thank you soo much for helping me!!!!!

OH yes, not only can you get in trouble, but the parents that allowed this can also, and the child can be taken from the home. Parents can not change the law, nor say, if it is ok with me, the law does not apply. Once the minor in question, is of legal age, then all that would stop you, is the restraining order, which would not happen if they are all for it. You may want to google alabama sex laws with minors, to see if there are no state, or county laws, that have been passed. I have heard of some pretty funky, and unkown laws, that deal with this, so statutory rape, is only one charge, please remember this. If I find another law for you to worry about, I will let you know, but you should do research, not just here.

demartian
01-03-2007, 08:30 PM
OH yes, not only can you get in trouble, but the parents that allowed this can also, and the child can be taken from the home. Parents can not change the law, nor say, if it is ok with me, the law does not apply. Once the minor in question, is of legal age, then all that would stop you, is the restraining order, which would not happen if they are all for it. You may want to google alabama sex laws with minors, to see if there are no state, or county laws, that have been passed. I have heard of some pretty funky, and unkown laws, that deal with this, so statutory rape, is only one charge, please remember this. If I find another law for you to worry about, I will let you know, but you should do research, not just here.

Ugh, the 18 year old being allowed to move in with the 15 year old situation sounds so familiar...

ConsentingKid
04-29-2009, 10:22 AM
Alabama has too, got laws that account for age difference. It's called close in age exception. It starts at 15 and your partner cannot be more than 3 years older. Of course, you could get married, then it doesn't really matter what age your bf is, he could be 50. Also, Alabama and georgia is the only state AFAIK that have an old unknown, but still valid law, that says that if you're pregnant, you can get married without parental consent.

Please realize that this site is pushing a christian rightwing agenda, and that they almost always choose the harshest explanation of the law.
Not many judges will throw you in jail for kissing, hand holding etc. They can, but usually because they were pressured into by church groups, or some such.

MomofBoys
04-29-2009, 11:45 AM
Alabama has too, got laws that account for age difference. It's called close in age exception. It starts at 15 and your partner cannot be more than 3 years older. Of course, you could get married, then it doesn't really matter what age your bf is, he could be 50. Also, Alabama and georgia is the only state AFAIK that have an old unknown, but still valid law, that says that if you're pregnant, you can get married without parental consent.

Please realize that this site is pushing a christian rightwing agenda, and that they almost always choose the harshest explanation of the law.
Not many judges will throw you in jail for kissing, hand holding etc. They can, but usually because they were pressured into by church groups, or some such.

Agian, your immaturity and ignorance are showing.

You also seem to be suggesting that this 15 year old OP (who is nearly 18 now because once again you dug up an old thread) simply get pregnant. Not only is your advice ridiculous, it's dangerous.

Christian right wing agenda? I've got five bucks that says you don't even know what that means.

There is no such thing as a close in age exception. There is a close in age defense. Which means you can use the close in age excuse as a DEFENSE. It is not a guarantee that charges cannot be filed or a conviction cannot happen.

MomofBoys
04-29-2009, 11:54 AM
I almost forgot to say...

Georgia and Alabama actually do NOT allow you to go ahead and get married without consent under the age of 18 if you are pregnant.

Georgia and Alabama allow a minor, who can prove the existence of a pregnancy, to APPLY for a marriage license without parental consent.

That minor still has to go before a judge. The judge makes the decision. Not the minor. The judge.

Please stop handing out your incorrect, dangerous, and not to mention entirely too late (seeing as you keep replying to long dead threads) "advice." Frankly, it sucks. You are very bad at it. Go back to Facebook.

Dolphin76
04-29-2009, 12:12 PM
Alabama has too, got laws that account for age difference. It's called close in age exception. It starts at 15 and your partner cannot be more than 3 years older. Of course, you could get married, then it doesn't really matter what age your bf is, he could be 50. Also, Alabama and georgia is the only state AFAIK that have an old unknown, but still valid law, that says that if you're pregnant, you can get married without parental consent.

Please realize that this site is pushing a christian rightwing agenda, and that they almost always choose the harshest explanation of the law.
Not many judges will throw you in jail for kissing, hand holding etc. They can, but usually because they were pressured into by church groups, or some such.

For your information, it is usually the parents or other family, not the "church" groups that press charges. And on that note, any one can call the authorities and turn in someone for dating a minor even if nothing physical has happened.

ConsentingKid
04-29-2009, 01:01 PM
Sorry, not even Alabama has laws against DATING, no matter which age. show me a statute or shut up.

And it does too, boil down to a close in age exception or exemption. For starters, there aren't many instances of filing whatever against, let's say a 15 year old and a 17 year old. And even if they do, usually there's not enough to go on, to think there's foul play, no matter how much the parent wants it to be so.
The power of parents over their teenage daughters is not absolute. And luckily so. And the picture you try to paint of teen boy as inevitable rapists when they date, kiss or have sex with teen girls, is seldom correct. Okay, maybe in your community, but thank God I don't have to live there.

No matter how much you try to criminalize teen behaviour, it won't work.
And maybe anyone can call, but there are penalties and jailtime for making a false report of that nature.



There was this case in Georgia:
"In a week, his ex-wife would have faced a child custody hearing. But the moment the couple's child was married, she was legally emancipated from her parents."

Judge, smudge. In Georgia, when you're pregnant, and you want to marry, you can. even if you're underage, because the judges will often rule against kids born out of wedlock .

cbg
04-29-2009, 01:07 PM
Consentingkid, this is the moderator speaking.

It is enormously clear that you do not in the least understand the laws you are spouting off about. If I see you posting incorrect advice again, particularly on a dead thread, your account will be suspended.

You will receive no further warnings.

MomofBoys
04-29-2009, 01:39 PM
Sorry, not even Alabama has laws against DATING, no matter which age. show me a statute or shut up.

And it does too, boil down to a close in age exception or exemption. For starters, there aren't many instances of filing whatever against, let's say a 15 year old and a 17 year old. And even if they do, usually there's not enough to go on, to think there's foul play, no matter how much the parent wants it to be so.
The power of parents over their teenage daughters is not absolute. And luckily so. And the picture you try to paint of teen boy as inevitable rapists when they date, kiss or have sex with teen girls, is seldom correct. Okay, maybe in your community, but thank God I don't have to live there.

No matter how much you try to criminalize teen behaviour, it won't work.
And maybe anyone can call, but there are penalties and jailtime for making a false report of that nature.



There was this case in Georgia:
"In a week, his ex-wife would have faced a child custody hearing. But the moment the couple's child was married, she was legally emancipated from her parents."

Judge, smudge. In Georgia, when you're pregnant, and you want to marry, you can. even if you're underage, because the judges will often rule against kids born out of wedlock .

I just wanted to point out that this particular case in Georgia happened in 2006. A woman brought her pregnant 13 year old over state lines to get married to her boyfriend. The ruling was in regard to a loophole in a 1962 law that allowed for pregnant minors to marry.

Around the same time, a court was also forced to rule that, becuase of that identical loophole, an ADULT PREGNANT WOMAN was legally permitted to marry her 15 year old teenaged lover who got her pregnant without his parents giving consent. The case made headlines worldwide, and the Georgia legislature promptly fixed the loophole.

The result: while there is still a pregnancy exception in Georgia, the age was raised to 16. And, you have to prove to a judge that the marriage is in the best interest of the minor and the child.

The story you quoted is not legal today.

No matter how you try to criminialize adult bahavior, it does not change the fact that parents have complete control over their minor children.

cbg
04-29-2009, 01:58 PM
Wrong answer, kid.

MomofBoys
04-29-2009, 02:24 PM
I just wanted to point out that I never stated that there were any laws against dating a minor. I don't think anyone did. But I certianly did not.

The proof that parents have complete control over their children is the thing the Kid has been trying to argue: emancipation. Emancipation is the removal of the disability of a minor. If parents did not have complete control over their kids, there would be no such thing as the disability of a minor, and hence, no such thing as emancipation.

It is the lack of any rights of minors that makes them under the control of their parents. It is the declaration of a parent or any guardian as just that -- a LEGAL GUARDIAN, and the need of a minor to have one, that is the PROOF that the Kid was seeking.

Parents do in fact have complete control over their minor children.

The Kid may very well be talking about parents being unable to control their child's thoughts, etc. But this is a legal website, not a philosophical one. Maybe parents cannot control thoughts (though they can influence them), but they most certianly can control action, thus, complete control.

MomofBoys
04-29-2009, 02:26 PM
But, and again, just to clarify....

There may not be laws against dating, but every state has a statute about contributing the the delinquency of a minor. And if parents feel that the adult is influencing their minor child in a bad way, they can always pursue this route.

Perhaps those are the laws Kid is looking for?

cbg
04-29-2009, 02:33 PM
I don't know what laws he's looking for. In a month, when his suspension is over, he can come back and tell us. As long as he stops giving incorrect advice and mouthing off.

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